My biggest regret is complicated and some thing I don't want to share here. It was some thing I had to do to preserve my sanity though. I made a complete mess of it unfortunately. My second biggest regret was attempting suicide when I was 23. If only I knew then, what I know now. Two things especially, that I'm HSP, and my mother is/was a narcissist. It could have saved me a bucket load of pain. Those two things were important pieces of information so I could forgive myself. I kinda wish I could reach through time and slap myself though.
Currently submerged under an avalanche of books and paper work. I may come back up for air from time to time.
Real life awaits and she is a demanding mistress.
My life's really pretty good in a lot of ways, and my problem was never doing things I regretted, but *not* doing things, and letting chances pass me by. So in that respect, it's an easy answer...
That sounds like me too.
I should have taken more proactive control over my life, rather than just floating with the current either out of indifference, uncertainty, or fear.
I read Steve Job's 2005 commencement speech for Stanford, and parts of it really hit me, especially as I enter middle-age:
...When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: "If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you'll most certainly be right." It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: "If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?" And whenever the answer has been "No" for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.
Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart....
"Hey Capa -- We're only stardust." ~ "Sunshine"
“Pleasure to me is wonder—the unexplored, the unexpected, the thing that is hidden and the changeless thing that lurks behind superficial mutability. To trace the remote in the immediate; the eternal in the ephemeral; the past in the present; the infinite in the finite; these are to me the springs of delight and beauty.” ~ H.P. Lovecraft
A man builds. A parasite asks 'Where is my share?'
A man creates. A parasite says, 'What will the neighbors think?'
A man invents. A parasite says, 'Watch out, or you might tread on the toes of God... '
....When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: "If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you'll most certainly be right." It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: "If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?" And whenever the answer has been "No" for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.
I have a handful of quotes that I think of every day to do just that, it seems that amongst all else, I get caught up in things that don't matter all so much, and need such reminders to constantly re-frame the path. And I'd say it works most of the time...
Regrets are kind of pointless as all they bring is unhappiness and disatisfaction with where you are presently. I'm not saying I won't have a biggest life regret when I'm older, I probably will have many, but for now I'm young and still have so much of my life ahead of me that I feel it's rather pointless to look back when there is a view encompassing endless possibilties that lies ahead.
Didn't watch the clip(s) since people are having difficulties accessing it.
The things I somewhat regret, led to things that I can't regret. As an example, getting married really young and then the decision to start a family right away. If I regret that, this would mean I would regret having my son which I can't. He's such a wonderful human being! And then, do I honestly regret the entire marriage? The answer to that would be no. It was a worthwhile learning experience.