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    Default For $100k, would you?

    Strange thing happened the other day, just got me thinking about how other people might deal with something like this, what choices would they make, and why.. [see, this is where you kids come in]

    I heard recently that my wealthy, alcoholic aunt was thinking of offering me upwards of $100,000.00 to act as a surrogate mother for her and her husband, as she cannot carry a pregnancy to term herself. She, like me, has never been interested in children, however her [also alchoholic, debilitatingly so] husband, wants a child someday. She basically thinks a kid will cure his lifelong drinking problem.

    So I hope you're getting the picture here- terribly dysfunctional people, every aspect of this situation is just wrong. An unhappy, turbulent and probably abusive life would be guaranteed for any of their offspring, as things stand.

    No amount of money would convince me that those two human beings could give a child a stable life, not to mention the entire concept of pregnancy is nightmarish and disgusting to me [sorry, moms, but that's how I've always felt about it]. Just, all of it, would haunt me forever.

    Of course my answer, if ever asked, will be a firm, immovable NO.

    But it made me wonder, for that much money, assuming you knew the parents would be incapable for providing the kid a secure and loving home, would you assist regardless? I wonder how much money it takes to push people's moral boundaries.
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    I'm not a woman so I have no womb to offer; however, I would guess that the amount of money required would vary tremendously based upon the person's particular need for that money (e.g. the utility that that money would provide). I would say, however, that a child born into that situation might still lead a life happy enough for it to want to have existed. I'm not sure how terrible a person's upbringing has to be to make it so they would have been better off never existing.
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    Assuming I felt the decision would be a good one (one way or another they are going to acquire a kid). I would do it, but the amount would have to be a LOT more than that (basically enough to support the child through age 18 plus some). I would also write up a contract giving me more than half custody of the child should I need to exercise any legal right against the parents. I would keep a VERY active role in the child's life. I would never just hand off a kid for any amount of money.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jonnyboy View Post
    I'm not a woman so I have no womb to offer; however, I would guess that the amount of money required would vary tremendously based upon the person's particular need for that money (e.g. the utility that that money would provide). I would say, however, that a child born into that situation might still lead a life happy enough for it to want to have existed. I'm not sure how terrible a person's upbringing has to be to make it so they would have been better off never existing.
    True, but yeah, I guess I couldn't handle the guilt, hearing about every terrible thing that would inevitably happen in that kid's life due to having two completely dysfunctinal, abusive parents. I would love that kind of money, certainly, but the sense of, errr, responsibility? that would linger on, long afterward, would be far too high a cost.
    03/23 06:06:58 EcK: lex
    03/23 06:06:59 EcK: lex
    03/23 06:21:34 Nancynobullets: LEXXX *sacrifices a first born*
    03/23 06:21:53 Nancynobullets: We summon yooouuu
    03/23 06:29:07 Lexicon: I was sleeping!



    04/25 04:20:35 Patches: Don't listen to lex. She wants to birth a litter of kittens. She doesnt get to decide whats creepy

    02/16 23:49:38 ygolo: Lex is afk
    02/16 23:49:45 Cimarron: she's doing drugs with Jack

    03/05 19:27:41 Time: You can't make chat morbid. Lex does it naturally.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ThatGirl View Post
    Assuming I felt the decision would be a good one (one way or another they are going to acquire a kid). I would do it, but the amount would have to be a LOT more than that (basically enough to support the child through age 18 plus some). I would also write up a contract giving me more than half custody of the child should I need to exercise any legal right against the parents. I would keep a VERY active role in the child's life. I would never just hand off a kid for any amount of money.
    Yeah. I'd ask for $10 million or more before committing to it.
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    Would you carry your aunt's fertilized egg or would it be your own?

    That changes things.

    If it's your own egg, you have biological and legal rights to it. If it's your aunts, you may bond with the child but you would be the child's cousin, not the parent. $100,000 is a lot of money but it't not enough to buy a home or set you up for life.

    If you knew the child would go to a stable, loving home that makes the decision easier. Not sure who would help bring a child into the world of a dysfunctional family and most likely unhappy, scarring childhood.
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    fuck no. and giving birth ages you like whoa.
    no want if i can't even keep it.
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    It wouldn't be like you'd be giving them your child -- I assume your eggs wouldn't be involved. And if they're willing to throw that sort of cash around it's not like they won't find a substitute.

    I dunno, your call.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mmhmm View Post
    fuck no. and giving birth ages you like whoa.
    no want if i can't even keep it.


    This is your future mmhmm. I wonder which pretty young thing old man jock will turn to to fulfill his needs.
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    I can't get pregnant, but umm.. Yeah.

    Really? Your reason is to prevent offspring for this so called dysfunctional family? I'll try not to ask details. You know better. I'm not really one to think people should be prevented from having families unless they're truly extreme.. like the family in Texas Chainsaw Massacre or something.

    I have a hard time believing she'd simply do it because she believes that will "cure" alcoholism. Sorry, but that sounds more like something an observer would project, not something that someone would intentionally say.

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