I enjoy a good discussion/debate as I feel much more learned afterwards. There's also the adrenaline rush some talked about. I love it! Of course some people think I'm being argumentative when I'm doing it but really, I'm just exploring or trying to explore all the facets of the situation at hand. Also discussions make me learn more about people so that's interesting as well.
I think I go into real argumentative mode when people push logically-flawed arguments onto me and tell me things like what I "should" do. That can make me quite wrathful.
Nope. Reason is about Reason. (: Argument (or conflict) is about you or/and the other.
A woman was kicked out of her apartment. Because of her dog.
Godfather reasoned with the owner of the apartment.
After that the owner of the apartment went to see the woman. He told her she can stay, and she can keep her dog.
Did Godfather reason about reason?
No, he reasoned about the woman and her dog.
If Godfather woud have started to argue with the owner, the owner would not have gone to see the woman.
The conversation was not about Godfather.
It was about the woman and her dog.
I enjoy the peace that comes after a settled argument more than trying to live with passive-aggressive funk that comes with confrontation avoidance. Other than that, though, I dislike arguing. Debating is different because it's a competition, but arguing is usually just people dumping their emotional pain on each other. Who wants that?
An argument is to present your side for another person to understand. During an argument, you are trying to impose your perspective into another person's understanding with minimal receptiveness to your opponents response.
A debate is subject to input from both sides, but in the end only one side will come out more accurate than the other. You present your argument, listen to the opponent, and present a NEW argument.
A discussion involves the meeting of ideas to play with or formulate a new mutual understanding or at least mutually accepted truth, whether one adheres to the belief or not.