Both sets of parents typically also teach their kids skills that they know well. Skills can overlap between genders too -- whether they be cooking cleaning, house maintenance, shopping, budgeting, fixing things, sports, problem-solving, etc. Parents typically do things with their kids, engaging them actively. It can be as simple as taking them out on walks to explore the world together. A lot of it is intent. If you want to be a good parent, then spend time doing things with your kids, and a lot of the parenting stuff will happen. You'll also learn as you go on how to engage them on their level, and when you don't feel comfortable, ask other parents.