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  • I would rather be liked

    6 19.35%
  • I would rather be respected

    21 67.74%
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    You know, after a bit of consideration here…I actually think I am going to vote ‘liked’.

    My first inclination was to select ‘respect’…as in ‘I admire you for this characteristic and/or that achievement and subsequently will treat you in this way’. But then I was thinking of myself in old age. And I was questioning…will I really need to be admired? Or will I just want a few loved ones around me who just really enjoy me for me.

    To be honest I am a bit tired of trying to be respected as I can’t seem to find a way to please all of the people all of the time. I’m thinking I just want to be enjoyed as a human-being with all my quirks and failures.

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    Respected.

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    I want to be respected for how likable I am

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    Quote Originally Posted by StarryKnights View Post
    You know, after a bit of consideration here…I actually think I am going to vote ‘liked’.

    My first inclination was to select ‘respect’…as in ‘I admire you for this characteristic and/or that achievement and subsequently will treat you in this way’. But then I was thinking of myself in old age. And I was questioning…will I really need to be admired? Or will I just want a few loved ones around me who just really enjoy me for me.

    To be honest I am a bit tired of trying to be respected as I can’t seem to find a way to please all of the people all of the time. I’m thinking I just want to be enjoyed as a human-being with all my quirks and failures.



    i want the people i respect to like me.

    everybody else, i'd prefer to respect me, but i don't really care about them.

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    First I want to be respected. After that I'll be definately liked as well. I'm a likeable person, once you respect me.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Eckhart View Post
    The question is, can you truely like someone who you don't respect in some way at least?
    Yeah, this was one of my initial thoughts. If I don't respect someone, I won't like them either. If I like them, I will respect them - I mean, I have to respect someone to actually like them (so does that mean Respect comes first?). I guess a third option would be indifference, where I don't actively dislike or like them - I either don't know what I think of them yet, or they're fine, I just don't necessarily want to invest anything with them because there's not enough to build on.
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    Trying to find a way to merge both. Maybe I associate respect too much with something like distance or people fearing you. Or competence.

    I feel belittled/disrespected easily when I'm open to others about doubts and questions (which helps tremendously with being liked) and they react by for example...trying to solve the problem for me (taking the problem away from me) or getting all protective, or lecturing me. I'm vulnerable and strong.

    I've become pretty assertive about demanding respect and respectful treatment of me as a person (different from competence, I suppose). It really does get you respect.

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    Respected which includes self-respect. When you're busy working towards crowd appeal, it's too easy to lose yourself.

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    In my experience the two tend to go together, although if I had to make a choice I would say that I would prefer to be respected than liked.

    For instance I know plenty of people who like people purely because they think of them as a useful idiot a buffer between them and others, a go between, a source of information either wittingly or unwittingly, in short they like them because they can use them, and that is a whole different story to respecting someone. Its never been that important to me to be liked and I've heard it said a lot of times as "the very least" that you can say that is positive about someone, for instance "I liked them/they were likeable but...".

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