Inappropiate Touch Tuesdays
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Yesterday, in the lounge at work a co-worker walked in from his task. He sat down on the fouton between where two people. On the right was a woman, on the left was a man. Cordially, as well as humorously, the co-worker put his hand on the man's leg. This joke was readily dismissed by the man, as he quickly, shockingly, and big-eyed, pushed the co-workers hand away. As often it goes in these incedence of tension, I laughed, as did others. The "toucher" proceeded, lightly harassing the person, until the young man had his arms crossed on the couch, his eyes wide, staring at the ground as we proceeded into a conversation. Eventually, he got up and left - likely to cool off.
After he was trolled into leaving, one of the other interns said it was possible that he'd been "messed with as a child", implying that such a strong reaction to a familial, but mainly jesting, touch was out of sorts. Also, this comment was to suggest that the toucher should not have tested the man's boundaries. From the tension off-set by turning the relationship tactile, it was evident that there may be a more violent reaction - seeing as the man pushed the hand away so quickly.
I was a bit unsure if the interaction might turn violent. Yet, it got me thinking. What is inappropiate? Lets say we change the context. Or we change the relationship - not in degree of familarity - but I assume the response would change. Lets say it was a girl who touched this man on his knee. Would he had responded so angrily? Would that be true if the female was a stranger? A lot of questions that I could only answer myself. I'm more interested on gathering data on daily "feely-touchy" boundaries people may have. Not so much interested in catching a case about sexual harassment. So I ask...
How do you define inappropiate touching for yourself? What are your boundaries? Who can and can not touch you? Oh yeah, and where can they touch you? Hmm...
Is this too much?