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    I'm tired of people being like I hate small talk, guess what small talk is how you get to know people, there's a lot between the lines when it comes to small talk. IN what universe do people talk about their darkest secrets upon first meeting or automatically have a deep conversation? I haven't told my best friend a lot of my secrets. I have to be pretty comfortable to give my actual views to someone.
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    I hate small talk.

    If it makes you feel better I also hate big talking.
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    So, how's the weather where you live?

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    haha it's freezing. But I mean when you meet someone at a party or a class you talk about very superficial things, well unless your really drunk.
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    I agree with the OP.
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    What is small talk?

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    well I guess if a person agrees with me that the current temperature is cold and unpleasant, at least I have learned about him that he does not like cold weather

    bam, I've made a new friend right there



    On subject and more serious, small talk can have a more valid point and greater purpose, such as eventually leading to more substantive conversation. I'm not a fan of the sort of idle chit-chat with someone inconsequential, which will lead nowhere and serves virtually no purpose.

    You don't use small talk in and of itself get to know someone; you use it to eventually get yourself into a position where you do get to know them on a deeper level.

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    I actually enjoy small talk... I mean, I lived in snow hell for years and now live a lovely sunny place, so I have lots of funny weather stories. Small talk, when done well, can tell you a lot about people and be quite enjoyable. I'm also uninhibited enough to talk to people about deeper stuff reasonably quickly. I also tend to do things that lead to good small talk though. I speedcube (solve the rubiks cube with the goal of a good time), so people will often start a conversation about that with me. Essentially, I like to talk to people, and if small talk is what they're doing, I'm fine with that ^.^
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    Quote Originally Posted by Beefeater View Post
    I hate small talk.

    If it makes you feel better I also hate big talking.
    Are you okay with medium talking?
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    Quote Originally Posted by prplchknz View Post
    I'm tired of people being like I hate small talk, guess what small talk is how you get to know people, there's a lot between the lines when it comes to small talk. IN what universe do people talk about their darkest secrets upon first meeting or automatically have a deep conversation? I haven't told my best friend a lot of my secrets. I have to be pretty comfortable to give my actual views to someone.
    There is a vast array of conversational ground between smalltalk and one's darkest secrets. Try current events, literature, science, philosophy, even hobbies and travel when discussed in some depth. Another good intermediate is "utilitarian talk" -- discussing what you are there to do to begin with. Every minute does not have to be filled with idle chatter, either. There is nothing wrong with silence.

    You don't get to know someone through smalltalk any more than you get to know a book by reading just the title page. The more you try "to read between the lines", the more you are likely to make false assumptions. Unless someone enjoys smalltalk for its own sake, it is hardly worth the energy.

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