I also don't know if a comparison to a group of people sitting in a circle really does justice to the complexity and depth of the relationships at this site. It's really hard to find an matching real-life setting to even begin to draw comparisons. I don't read the blogs of all my friends, and I don't have discussions with them about their personal lives and fears to the same degree I do with people on this site.It wouldn't go over in real-life, it won't go over here.
Agreed.In general, you have to earn the right to cut someone down... because they would realize you're not doing it to diminish them, nor would you phrase things in ways to be purposefully hurtful. Or you would have to have a specific session dedicated to it, with only the actual willing participants being included in the commentary.
The criticism might not go over well, but it's expression is important nonetheless, wouldn't you agree? Criticism serves both the source and the target. Otherwise this place'll turn into PassiveAggressiveCentral. Yikes.Most of the negative bitching that ever springs up in the forums (and even the few truly negatives in this thread) seems less about being constructive and more about someone just wanting to vent because they're upset with someone. So of course that sinks like a lead platypus.