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  • Having tons of friends and a vivid social life, but being chronically unemployed, Male

    6 28.57%
  • Having the most successful and satisfying career you could imagine but having no friends, Male

    9 42.86%
  • Having tons of friends and a vivid social life, but being chronically unemployed, Female

    0 0%
  • Having the most successful and satisfying career you could imagine but having no friends, Female

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    Default Career vs. Friends

    A while ago I posted a thread where I made you choose between a good sex life or a good love life and today I came up with a new dilemma, thanks to something I read in one of my study books.

    I read that some women don't dare to be successfull or have a career, because they think they'll lose all of their friends if they do.

    So today I give you the choice:
    • Having tons of friends and a vivid social life, but being chronically unemployed
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    • Having the most successful and satisfying career you could ever imagine, but having no friends

    What would you choose if you had no choice?

    And I'm talking about your dream career and so many friends you don't know how to maintain all these friendships
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    I would choose good friends over good career any day. Unless I had a family to support, then I would pick the job. They shouldn't suffer for my dazzling social life.

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    If you are forcing me to have a lot of friends- I want the career.

    Both are very extreme- Where I've had a great career and no friends due to me not having time to chill with them, now I recognize that the career thing pales in comparison to good friendships, and having the time to maintain them.

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    Actually, now that I've gone beyond the title and read the OP, I think I would have no choice but to pick a career. A dream job versus more friends than I can handle? Isn't that implying I wouldn't like my social life if it was "more than I can handle"? I thought it was more of a balanced: Ideal Friends vs. Ideal Job, not Incredibly taxing and busy social life vs. ultimate career satisfaction.

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    Having tons of friends and a vivid social life, but being chronically unemployed

    i dont really care about having extra money enough to sacrifice life for it. i get enough money to live with even if im unemployed, naturally good job and money + life would be ideal. im currently unemployed and i like it more than when i had a job, i had every other week morning shift and every other evening shift. when i had evening shift, naturally i couldnt see people because i was working when when they were free from work/school and at morning shift i was so tired from staying up so late the last week(had to sleep late because i was so tired from not sleeping enough week before and couldnt sleep right after work because i woke up so late) that i couldnt do anything after work. it sucked really much, so i volunteered to quit the job when they announced that they need to let go of some workers.
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    Both choices are unpleasant but if I had to pick, I'd go with having the most successful and satisfying career you could ever imagine, but having no friends
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    Quote Originally Posted by Queen Kat View Post
    I read that some women don't dare to be successfull or have a career, because they think they'll lose all of their friends if they do.
    Huh. All this time they told me it's because they're going to have a 'family', and their (future) husband is the one who will 'provide' for the 'family'.


    As noted above both choices are very unpleasant but I'd rather have a successful (self-driven) career over many friends. I can't handle very many friends.

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    To be honest, either option would be an improvement on Falcarius' current predicament of being chronically unemployed and little in the way of a social life.:sad:
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