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  • Having tons of friends and a vivid social life, but being chronically unemployed, Male

    6 28.57%
  • Having the most successful and satisfying career you could imagine but having no friends, Male

    9 42.86%
  • Having tons of friends and a vivid social life, but being chronically unemployed, Female

    0 0%
  • Having the most successful and satisfying career you could imagine but having no friends, Female

    6 28.57%
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    This question was obviously written by an E. Quality over quantity in friends is what I go for. I certainly don't want "tons of friends and a vivid social life" if it means I always have to be with people. I suppose I would go for a reasonable balance of work and life, like I do anyway.

    You're never going to have to choose, though. Whoever told you that is completely retarded.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Randomnity View Post
    This question was obviously written by an E. Quality over quantity in friends is what I go for. I certainly don't want "tons of friends and a vivid social life" if it means I always have to be with people. I suppose I would go for a reasonable balance of work and life, like I do anyway.

    You're never going to have to choose, though. Whoever told you that is completely retarded.
    Yeah well I also don't "like" to have tons of friends. But that's what happens! lol
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    Good friends would support you. Especially if your chronic unemployment is due to circumstances and not you being some lazy slob.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Queen Kat View Post
    I got it from one of my study books, "Personality Psychology, Domains of Knowledge about Human Nature, Fourth Edition" by Randy J. Larsen and David M. Buss:

    It's very old, because Karen Horney died in 1952, but I think it still counts for a lot of women. I chose for a career, because a satisfying career will always be satisfying and because I learned very early that you can't depend on your friends because most people are selfish, have a hidden agenda and will ruin you when they gain any benefit from it.
    While fear of being ostracised is a valid human fear, I would hazard the opinion that fear of success, as it relates to women in their careers and female friends, isn't as much a fear anymore as it was in the 1950's.

    To shift perspectives, where it might still be prevalent is the belief that women who succeed in their careers are considered "hard-nosed ball busters" and "butch-like bitches" since they don't portray or react in the traditionally expected SFJ femininity models. Emotional coldness is described in male authority figures in a positive light, where they're stoic and pragmatic within the work place. Emotional coldness is described in female authority figures in a negative light, where their decisions are unfeeling and taken personally. The expectations of a patriarch to lead by hard logic and the expectations of a matriarch to lead by nurturing.

    As this pertains to the opening post, I choose neither. Don't want more friends than I can handle. Already experience the nagging from existing friends to be more social and spend more time with them. Also don't want the optimum career with no friends. I'd wilt away with no friends and have already tried the empty career route to the degree that once goals had been attained, they weren't really what I wanted or needed. It was only the challenge that made them something to acquire.

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    i've gotten in business with two friends before.
    in the end i chose the business.
    nothing personal.
    every normal man must be tempted, at times,
    to spit on his hands, hoist the black flag,
    and begin slitting throats.
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    Everyone will harvest what he seeds
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    Quote Originally Posted by entropie View Post
    Everyone will harvest what he seeds
    And we seed what we get. Or so

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    Well, does money count in this situation?

    Because, when thinking this through, I would say career. But, having Fe dominate right now, I couldn't go my whole life without human contact. *scratches head* Yet, I wouldn't want to be forced into human contact every day of my life. I need some time.

    This is hard. I guess career, to survive.
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    Good friends will support you if you are unemployed. However, if you choose to be chronically unemployed and have to depend on them financially, they might get impatient with you.

    If I were one of person X's friends and had to feed X everyday because X felt that working was not his cup of tea, I'd get quite mad at some point. But maybe it's just me.

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    I'm used to the latter, so I'll pick the latter.

    No matter what you do, you have opportunities to make friends. Personally, I can see much more rewarding opportunities with having a career even though you might not have friends. You can always have people think they're your friends.

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