What do you think the best social response would be to a man who flirts with me in front of his wife?
I always feel at a loss in this kind of situation, because flirting often appears to be only "over friendly." It is never blatantly clear enough to say something like "I can't believe you are acting this way in front of your wife," or "shove off jerk."
Plus, I have trouble not being friendly with people in general, so it's hard for me to give a cold shoulder to someone as a general principle. I feel this pressure when someone is acting friendly to act friendly back.
But I don't want to be a jerk to the woman by responding to the guy.
So do I ignore it? Turn and focus/talk to the wife? Make an excuse and walk away?
Some examples of this behavior: I have had guys call me "beautiful" in front of their wives, tug on my hair, throw something at me playfully, and just in general act like they are all moony.
( I actually think this is kind of funny, because I am not really physically that attractive. I think I just get the attention because of that weird INFJ seductive thing).
What can I do to act cool socially, but still show the wife I'm on her team and not looking to take the attention away from her?