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    Quote Originally Posted by Lily flower View Post
    It's interesting. When I lived way up North, no one would call another person beautiful, or anything like that, but now that I live in the deep South, people say that to each other all the time. They even say "Hey baby" or "Hi sexy" to children, as if it is a normal greeting. It's very strange to me, but seems to be normal in this culture.
    Where in the South?

    I'm from Alabama, and I've never heard an adult address a child with "Hey baby" or "Hi sexy." As far as I know that'd be frowned upon here as well. Now, calling someone "honey," "darlin'," "sweetheart," "sweetie," or occasionally "beautiful" as you've already mentioned is pretty common, but usually among women (and gay men). Straight men, unless they're an older grandfather-father figure type, don't say things like that.

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    To the OP, I think you should speak up. Or just try to stay out of their company.

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    lol @ "hi sexy" to children...alrighty, then

    hi baby is common, though, in the south even to children and it's not implied in a sexual way

    Southern men can be very flirtatious (it is a rather SFJ culture) but usually its in the realm of being appropriate or non-scary, because they know to have manners, or their momma will beat them senseless.

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    In fact, now that I know this is in the South, are you sure this isn't just normal behavior for them? Is this happening with multiple people in multiple social situations?

    Are you shy or quiet or something? They might think you're uncomfortable and want to make you comfortable.

    Is the attention actually sexual, or are you just interpreting playful flirtation that way because you're from a more reserved culture?

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    It seems harmless, unless the wife looks uncomfortable. A hostile rebuff would turn a slightly uncomfortable situation into a conflict situation. Just pretend it's not flirting, because it might not be.

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    I would tend to make more eye contact with the wife, and initiate friendliness towards her while minimizing responses to him. I might tend to ignore the man a little more than is socially polite, but introverts can get by with just being "spacy". Depending on the circumstance I might compliment the wife or ask her a question about her week or something that I knew she had something positive to say or was proud of. You could stand closer to her and that sort of thing too.
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    Flirt with the wife!

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