I don't think so. I mean events/experiences can certainly change/affect your identity. But this history of events is more like.. a timeline of your life, than your actual identity. Perhaps the way you perceive them is a reflection on your identity.Is identity a history of events/experiences?
I think most people's values change over time. I think your identity influences what you value. At the same time, what you value can influence your identity as what drives you will change what you want and what you do, which is intertwined with who you are.Is it one's values?
If I do it, it's me. I don't really feel the need to maintain a consistent image of myself. I just do whatever I feel like doing lol.How do you feel when you do something out of character? How do you think that affects your sense of identity?
I find that very bizarre lol. Is it wrong to experience growth and change?Whenever I do something that is out of character for me I will feel a deep sense of guilt...like I'm losing my identity bit, by bit. These days I feel very hollow....I don't know who I am anymore.
How? And how do you know that it is possible to control your future?Which is frightening since my identity is the only thing that gives me a sense of control over the future.
Being at peace with things requires that you have no need for security or control.And I crave security. I often wonder if there is such a thing as a sustainable state of peace of mind. Being completely at peace with things.
I wonder if peace can only be attained with no sense of identity, no sense of ego.
Rather than thinking all the time about what separates me from the rest of the world, since I figure I'm kind stuck in it, it makes more sense to me to consider myself as more like a functioning limb of the world. After all, I came from the world, all I'm going to do is move around and do stuff within the world, and when I die I'm going to return to the world/be buried in the earth. So using this same way of reasoning, if I change with things around me, then I can never be destroyed. It's not that I have entirely no identity, it's just that it's very, um, expansive.
In the same way everyone should be allowed to be who they want and change to become who they want, you should also allow yourself to do what comes naturally. To go against what is meant to become or to force yourself into a set image will only bring you discomfort and will imbalance the harmony in your life.