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    Default It's "Miss" not "Ma'am"...grrr.

    What is the appropriate age for people who serve you (waiters, cashiers, etc.) to start calling a woman “ma’am”?

    I get irked when people call me ma'am, I always think in my head "It's Miss dammit!".
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    ma'am is a horrible word and every time I say it I taste a bit of vomit. It should only be reserved for people over 40.

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    I think they use it when it's obvious you're older, and I suspect it's meant as a safe word. I dislike sir, and ma'am, but accept that it is rarely meant to be offensive. The only way I've found to prevent it is, if they have a name tag, call them by name and offer your own, or if you're a regular customer, just say something like "I'm not really a ma'am, but you can call me (insert whatever)."
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    It's a regional issue. It is also an issue of one's culture. Additionally, it's used, and taught to be used, in military households.
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    Actually it's the opposite of what you're making it out to be. It's a term of respect, especially in the sense that you could be Miss or Mrs. and it doesn't necessarily have to do with your age. These people often deal with tons of people male and female every day and it's unreasonable to expect them to know each's personal preference, so sir or ma'am is the generally accepted term in service oriented occupations.

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    depends on where you're from.

    I get called ma'am by people usually "fresh" to the country, and miss by some people. its usually " dear" though.

    I totally used the word "fresh " on purpose. lol

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    Oh, what's the matter with growing up? You should own your ma'amness. But I'm guessing it's just the 'safe' word to use to the point of being habit. The guy was probably just phoning it in that day.

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    If I'm trying to get your attention and you're over 25 I'm going to say ma'am. "Excuse me, miss?" would sound weird since I'm but a babe myself. In my mind it just seems like a respectful go-to word to use in formal (business) settings. Miss is for a child, ma'am is for an independent woman!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sparrow View Post
    What is the appropriate age for people who serve you (waiters, cashiers, etc.) to start calling a woman “ma’am”?

    I get irked when people call me ma'am, I always think in my head "It's Miss dammit!".
    I'm sorry Ma'am...

    Would madam prefer I call her babe, darlin', hot-stuff, or chica ?

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    Well, I'm glad they're not calling me Miss anymore. And strangers always talk about "that lady", instead of "that girl" when they're talking about me and I don't mind. At least I somehow seem to distinguish myself from my generation and I love that.
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