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    Another thread made me wonder how everyone defines maturity or being mature.

    What are your thoughts?

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    To mature is to "reach an advanced stage of mental or emotional development ".

    "Advanced" being subjective of course.


    I think when people say someone is mature...they usually want to mean confident. Un-overbearingly so.

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    Define advanced as you perceive it. Not interested in what the dictionary says.

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    Accountability= Maturity

    When does a person realize they are the common denominator in all the issues and struggles in their life?

    Maturity is also when you set an example and others follow not because you demand them to, but because they choose to.

    This is my take on it anyway.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Metaphor View Post
    Define advanced as you perceive it. Not interested in what the dictionary says.
    Well for me there is no such stage. Some mature people would no be able to deal with some situations that some other people faced.

    I think mature is learning to be unaffected by external circumstances, to realize the importance of caring for other people, to be able to put themselves out of the situation, not wanting something in return. I see it as Agape.

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    I think there are different kinds of maturity. The one I value the most is interpersonal. I believe that people should treat others how they want to be treated. If this principle was at the core of everyone's thoughts and behaviors then there would be much less violence and hostility in the world. I think an inability or unwillingness to view circumstances objectively is an indication of immaturity. To a certain extent, everybody is going to be influenced by their own subjective experiences, but they should at least make an attempt to consider a broader view. I hate double-standards and it annoys me when people use them to justify their behavior or mentality. I consider empathy a strengh, not a weakness. If somebody is incapable of empathizing with others, I think that is an indication of immaturity, whether they can control their lack of empathy or not. Finding the right balance between aggression/passivity, justice/mercy is also a factor in someone's level of maturity, in my opinion.

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    The ability to look at the world from outside your point of view. The capacity to subjugate your comfort/desires for the benefit of others, when appropriate, but also to know when it is not appropriate and to stand up for yourself at these times. The willingness to take responsbility for your actions and your words, to admit when you're wrong, and to take a stand when you're right. The ability to be self-sufficient, but also to recognize when you need help, and to ask for it and accept it when you do. Self-control. Compassion. Respect for yourself and others.
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    Oh and also avoiding hypocrisy as much as possible. The most immature people are those who don't practice what they preach.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Aquarelle99 View Post
    The ability to look at the world from outside your point of view. The capacity to subjugate your comfort/desires for the benefit of others, when appropriate, but also to know when it is not appropriate and to stand up for yourself at these times. The willingness to take responsbility for your actions and your words, to admit when you're wrong, and to take a stand when you're right. The ability to be self-sufficient, but also to recognize when you need help, and to ask for it and accept it when you do. Self-control. Compassion. Respect for yourself and others.
    I think that's a pretty good summary.
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