Why are SP's and NP's less competitive than SJ's and NJ's?
This has been bugging me for awhile and dunno where to place this so just throws it out there.
What bothers me, about me most of all is my lack of a competitive drive and I generally let others win when I know I could probably do just as well if I really tried.
I remember in high school I was good at athletics but then when it came to the crunch I just didn't have the heart to compete properly. While others were determined to get better and beat me by exercising and gaining more muscles etc I just didn't care. And then they did of course win.
The same in bowling for instance, I all of a sudden started getting a rather almost very accurate score initially. The J's were surprised and found this as a challenge so they upped the anty and next round they were totally doing much better while I couldn't be bothered and got lower scores even though if I concentrated enough I could have had a better score which would have just further got them riled up.
I want to get to the bottom of this competitiveness vs non competitiveness there seems to be and why it happens.