See rest of article (and the supporting anecdotes) at5 Mistakes Everyone Should Make
1. Totally embarrass yourself.
2. Ruffle people’s feathers.
3. Follow trends blindly
4. Be willing to fail—doing something you love
5. Carelessly put yourself at risk
5 Mistakes Everyone Should Make - Manage Your Life on Shine
Do you agree with these? Can you think of other mistakes that might be valuable to make at times?
In regards to #1, one of my formative life experiences occured maybe six years ago, when I attended a week-long spiritual-direction seminar in Colorado. At the closing banquest, people were given the option to stand up and say what the week meant to them.
That's normally something I despise doing, but this time I felt like I should... yet I had nothing in my head of what to say. I always plan my thoughts in advance, to the point that when I was younger, I would even rehearse phone calls in my head before dialing... but here, I felt compelled to stand and yet was entirely blank.
I stood anyway, and fumbled through what I found to be the most embarrassing declaration of my life. I don't remember the words, just that it was clumsy and raw... so much for coming across as an intelligent, coherent person.
When I sat down at the end, despite people clapping (I assumed out of politeness), I had to fight not to cry and just wanted to crawl under the tables and out of the room.
Later, I mentioned to a friend who was there, admitting how crappy I felt at the time; and he was, "Actually you gave one of the best comments on the week that I heard. It was wonderful."
I just looked at him as if I was afraid his nose would grow three feet in a second and knock out my eye.
And then he continued: "Yes, you were clumsy, and raw, and it was so clear that you hadn't rehearsed anything... yet that only made it seem even more honest; you were putting the unprotected 'you' out there for everyone to see, regardless of how you felt it might make you look. I found that compelling and it encouraged me to be that honest." And other people I talked to said the same sort of thing.
That was a lesson I took to heart -- not only that it was okay to not have my "best foot forward" but that people would respond to honesty and that there were people who could see the "real me" underneath and still accept me. I spent so much of my life feeling that others expected me to fit a particular image and I'd be punished if I didn't; but it took me being willing to embarrass myself out of conviction to show me maybe this wasn't always the case.
This experience was something I still work to incorporate into my life today... but it gave me much more courage.