I assume I've missed something in this thread, given your and Starry's remarks. I never saw anything like that here.
But there has been much misunderstanding, and it seems detrimental to rush to a conclusion of malintent.
Since the volunteer work I do involves children...currently focusing on bullying/violence/delinquency/etc. I know there is a movement to get this kind of thing out of the schools.
Now until Corolis arrived (I think you had already formed a opinion regarding what I was doing...) it's a popular thing to say that supporters of this 'don't like appreciation and genuine positive intent.' No, I want more appreciation...And while I never will mention a name or wish for my name to be mentioned in this thread which kinda scares me... I will be returning to the thread in the Fluff Zone.
There is a big difference between 'appreciation'...and being made an 'example of.' (with negative comments.)
I appreciate @senza tema for showing the forum and ventrilo that not all south asians have indian accents - which I fail to do - and that it's not genetically encoded to our genes. Actually I appreciate you for being a pal - when you are in an extroverted mood atleast - but thought you wouldn't forgive me if I didn't try to embarass you in some way before saying that.I appreciate my devilishly handsome boy-toy oakysage - who has changed his username to @Time ; much to the displeasure of most of us - for being a real friend in need. I appreciate @UniqueMixture for living upto his italian-american stereotype of being a womanizer - so that we can further stereotype the italians and call him fonzi - and giving tips to get laid more. I appreciate @Mane for reminding me and canadian children that jesus is actually jewish. I appreciate @AffirmitiveAnxiety for reminding me of my hilarious friend; who coincidentally died around his age. I appreciate @Lexicon for continuously talking about cats and dressing up her cat like shakespeare to encourage us to become theatre enthusiasts. On a serious note I really like you for being friendly, chatty and for having a good sense of humour.
I apologise to time on your behalf for having a name that displeasures most.
@Amargith for her endless insights on how people operate
@Orobas for similar, and sharing some fanfics with me
@EJCC for generally being a level-headed breath of fresh air in all our encounters
@bologna for so often being the other side of the coin of my own thoughts
@Riva for being almost insolent in a way that can always be forgiven
@Zarathustra for continuing to fight the good fight
@gromit for reminding me of the roses I should be smelling more often
and many others I am too tired to write a decent few words about now, but am nonetheless thinking of.
In science, when human behavior enters the equation, things go nonlinear. That's why Physics is easy and Sociology is hard. -- Neil deGrasse Tyson
I appreciate you all for not putting me in a position where I'm expected to effusively reciprocate the feelings externalized.
A man builds. A parasite asks 'Where is my share?'
A man creates. A parasite says, 'What will the neighbors think?'
A man invents. A parasite says, 'Watch out, or you might tread on the toes of God... '
It seems weird to me to call it circle-jerking. It's like... I dunno, it makes it sound like way more intentional and systemic than it is. The way I see it, it's just one person demonstrating kindness, and the other person receiving it and sometimes trying to reciprocate that gesture.
That's kinda the definition of a circle-jerk, right there...
I see a lot of Fe bias in these threads - like the presupposition that conflict is a universally bad thing, and public ego-stroking a universally good one.
There's also a whole bunch of icky passive-aggression.
Not everyone glories in that. Not everyone is terrified of "negativity" either. We are not all the same and there's no point pretending we are or insisting that anyone who finds this sort of thing cheap and tasteless is in some way defective. Or that the people who enjoy it and are allergic to conflict are similarly damaged. Different (ego) strokes. If MBTI has taught us anything, it should surely been that minimum level of tolerance and understanding.
I guess the objective way to measure such threads is to survey whether they create more good feeling than bad. By that standard, the thread has probably failed, whatever good intentions may have spawned it. If the same positive comments had been communicated privately, then only the positive part of the message would have been transmitted - sans drama. It seems like a simple solution to me, but I guess there are those people who need to be seen doing their appreciation thing. On one level I find that distasteful. On another, it's amusing. Some of the most splendid entertainment derives from the comedy of manners. I suspect cultural biases feed into such judgments too.
The first man to raise a fist is the man who's run out of ideas. H.G. WELLS
The first principle is that you must not fool yourself, and you are the easiest person to fool. FEYNMAN If this is monkey pee, you're on your own.SCULLY
@Duck_of_Death, for having exquisite taste in movies and video games. I swear, sometimes I feel like I'm looking in the mirror.
@Jonny, for actually being kinda cool for a nerd.
@Stigmata, for making posts that have been known to make me laugh.
@Lark, for responding to my posts, and for being politically incorrect.
@Lexicon, for being among the least stuck-up females on the forum. I actually don't even hate you.
@Webslinger, for agreeing with me about that egg skull thingy.
@DiscoBiscuit, for having an alternative political viewpoint that punches the liberal asshats in the face.
@bologna, for being the most chill mod on the forum.
@Jennifer, for being like @Lexicon, except older, and has actually seen Star Wars.