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    I have never participated at a dating web site - BUT, as a joke, I made an account over at Plentyoffish.com in order to harass a guy friend of mine who's been over there, pulling in the laydays. It required me to make an account, and later, when I tried to delete it, I discovered that the site wouldn't let me delete an account for 24 hours. So when I came back to the profile the next day, I have a pile of messages : some from men who seem like nice guys, but there were several who were the pushiest, most demanding and freaky guys - it was a little startling and terrifying. If someone had talked like that to me in person, I would have gone off on them. I still plan to take the account down, since I have no desire to have a boyfriend right now, as funny as harassing a friend would have been, but I have to ask - has anyone had a GOOD experience with dating sites? They seem so artificial and creepy. Strangers pushing to enter the most intimate and private areas of another person's life as if they have some right to be there, seems highly offensive to me.

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    LAWL PlentyofFish. I once saw a profile where all the guy put in his interest box was 'legs.' classy!

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    A friend of mine, one of my few, and possibly my best, is someone I found on a dating site.

    But that's it. And in terms of romantic relationships, I have had no success at all.
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    From what I've heard (including from female friends who have had unpleasant experiences similar to what you have), plentyoffish is little more than a hook-up site with a crazy amount of creeps and pervs... Rule of thumb would be to stay away from free "dating" sites that take 5 minutes to create an account at.

    As for the more refined websites such as match.com and the likes: I don't have first hand experience on them, but I've heard of success stories...

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    My brother met his girlfriend of 2+ years now on match.com, so I suppose it's good stuff. I really love the girl, and they seem to really care for each other. My brother's thinking about shopping for engagment rings now.

    Dating sites can be shady things.. people are going to use them for things they aren't intended for.. I made an account on eharmony once, and although I didnt get the Paul Blart "You have no matches you loser" response, the few responses I did get were creepy guys looking for booty calls in the end. I soon deleted the account. It wasn't a waste of time persay, seeing as it was free for the first month, but I don't think dating sites are bad at all. I think that was just one bad experience.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Beat View Post
    From what I've heard (including from female friends who have had unpleasant experiences similar to what you have), plentyoffish is little more than a hook-up site with a crazy amount of creeps and pervs... Rule of thumb would be to stay away from free "dating" sites that take 5 minutes to create an account at.

    As for the more refined websites like match.com and the likes: I don't have first hand experience on them, but I've heard of success stories...
    I think dating sites are sort of like the internet in general, but more so -- there are worthwhile people out there to get to know, but finding them in the midst of the creeps and scams... well, lets just say that the signal to noise ratio is rather low. Low enough that in most cases it may not be worth the effort.

    I have heard of successes though (not at PlentyOfFish) -- so it does happen.
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    I have known several people who have met their sweeties/spouses online, mostly on OK Cupid. I've never tried dating sites myself, though I've met partners online otherwise.
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    My sense of mischief has been blamed for Lady's present account at Plentyoffish. I just wanted to see what crawled out of the woodwork. Plenty "offish" is a better name for it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by LadyJaye View Post
    I made an account over at Plentyoffish.com in order to harass a guy friend of mine who's been over there...
    This just gave me an idea...

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    I wouldn't be against a dating site -- but I feel as though I would either scare them away or get a bunch of major creeps.

    Or, secretly, I'm afraid of the Paul Blart response, bahaha

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