(Couldn't decide where to post this topic. Politics/Health?)
This subject is not often found on the internet, because most people do not
seem to have an interest for it, therefore it is quite often neglected by the
general public. And that is a shame, because it can fuse ignorance.
In Norway, we use functional- and development impaired to describe the
word handicapped. Words like disabled and retardation is taboo, and
"a handicap" is rather refered to as an advantage, not a disadvantage, for
instance; a handicap parking spot, or having a handicap in a game of cards.
- To point out
- To sympathize
Even people well in their twenties (including friends of mine) can suddenly
point out and make fun of an impaired who "walks funny", or someone who's
sitting in a wheelchair or type automobile for the impaired, and so forth. I do
not laugh at such, nor do I look in the direction they want me to look. I do
not comment on their distasteful sense of humor, nor do I ditch them
because of their lack of integrity.
When this happens, I have three layers; my first and top layer being visable
for others to see, whereas my second layer hides my true feelings, the third
and final layer.
- I'm not interested.
- That was unnecessary.
- I want to slap you in the face with the palm of my hand. It's about time you grow up, moron.
There's a big difference between pointing out a general impairment, and
pointing out an impaired. Comedians should not feel restricted to make fun of
the impairment itself to lighten the mood, but should consider letting the
impaired be. If not, it is categorized as discrimination. For instance, Eddy
Murphy called the stars he joked about on the phone before he did his
shows, and asked for their blessing, people like; Stevie Wonder and Michael
Jackson. Otherwise he wouldn't have made jokes about them. Michael
Jackson was in fact a big fan of Eddy Murphy.
Parenting / learning how to respect others:
When I was three years old, I asked my mother if that guy behind us in line,
with the beer belly, was pregnant. My mother pinched my mouth, turned my
head around, looked at me with her angry-eyes and said with a strict voice
"Watch your mouth!" And with good reason! The man however, laughed, but
still. I do not understand why this is not common in parenting today. Are you
afraid to hurt your kids? What's the problem? Do you want your kid to grow
up to become a dick with no respect for others?
Another one, is showing extreme sympathy for the impaired, as if they need
your sympathy. "Poor guy, he's in a wheelchair." The worst thing you can do
is consider them as people who can't do shit on their own. The only thing
you need to do is clear a path for them, and they do well on their own! Be
polite, and considerate. And if you fuck up, just give a straight "I'm sorry; I
didn't mean it that way," without hightening your voice as giving sympathy,
but more a sincere apology for your clumsy remark.
People have yet to fix proper access to the impaired; at malls, stores, diners,
restaurants, bars, and so forth, even public transportation and housing.
What is your view on this?
Ps. I am not impaired, nor do I work with the impaired.