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    Cool Quiet VS Shy

    They aren't the same thing, people!

    Anyone else get really frustrated by people who call you "shy" when you're really just "quiet"?

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    I am often quiet, but there is another distinction that applies to me. Specifically, with some new people I'm quite simply disinterested in them. Shyness implies a feeling of intimidation, disinterest is a manifestation of apathy. Quietness is obviously a third thing, an implicit nature that doesn't necessarily reflect a state of mind.

    I suppose I'm in a similar boat overall. I'm frequently quiet and sometimes disinterested but am not often shy.
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    I don't know whether I am reserved or shy or just quiet. Mostly I feel neutral about situations and just nothing (to say) comes to mind.
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    It is frustrating. I'm more reserved than shy, but I am most definitely quiet because I like to observe more than participate straight away.

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    I think there is an element of shyness in my nature. If I use this as a definition...

    In humans, shyness (also called diffidence) is a social psychology term used to describe the feeling of apprehension, lack of confidence, or awkwardness experienced when a person is in proximity to, approaching, or being approached by other people, especially in new situations or with unfamiliar people.


    It is the apprehension in me that stimulates the observation in some situations. And confidence in a situation you are unfamiliar with seems like a recipe for disaster. And I do feel awkward in unfamiliar situations.

    So I think it is some kind of shyness that fuels observation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by copperfish17 View Post
    They aren't the same thing, people!
    Agreed.

    Anyone else get really frustrated by people who call you "shy" when you're really just "quiet"?
    Well, I don't get referred to as either quiet or shy, but I see what you're saying though. You've never struck me as being shy though.

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    Anyone else get really frustrated by people who call you "shy" when you're really just "quiet"?
    I'm neither shy nor quiet; I'm simply reserved. It's more annoying when I try to explain the reasons why I don't qualify as 'shy' and they still insist otherwise.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ZPowers View Post
    I am often quiet, but there is another distinction that applies to me. Specifically, with some new people I'm quite simply disinterested in them. Shyness implies a feeling of intimidation, disinterest is a manifestation of apathy. Quietness is obviously a third thing, an implicit nature that doesn't necessarily reflect a state of mind.

    I suppose I'm in a similar boat overall. I'm frequently quiet and sometimes disinterested but am not often shy.
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    I'm extremely shy but it mostly doesn't show as being 'quiet' - I'm more withdrawn with periods of extroverted behaviour. At times, I will nervously talk away, either because I find the awkward silence to be rather unnerving or because I'm trying (and failing) to socially participate out of politeness.

    And extroverts can also be shy.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Quinlan View Post
    I don't know whether I am reserved or shy or just quiet. Mostly I feel neutral about situations and just nothing (to say) comes to mind.
    I'm the same way. Unless I'm dying to say something, I won't unless necessary. I think it's just being reserved and observational.

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