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    Default Manners in public vs Manners in 'private'

    I'm typing this with dirty fingers and a dirty face as I'm half eating a left over fast food dinner and browsing the interwebz. I have two small dogs eyeing my food as I eat so I was making predator growling sounds as I bit into my chicken. I was laughing as I ate because I would *NEVER* eat like this or act like this in public, or if I thought anyone outside of immediate family was watching me.

    Sooooooooooooo, roundabout way to ask a simple question:

    Are your manners much different when you are alone or with SO/immediate family? Or are they much the same?

    Examples, please!
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    When I'm with family or my inner circle, it's almost like being alone. I'm more likely to belch or fart unabashedly, and so are they. When I'm with other people, or in public, I use my manners.
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    It usually just pertains to eating. I'll eat much quicker and carelessly by myself or around family members, than i will around random people or friends.
    I used to be so awkward about my eating habits that i would refuse to eat around people who weren't family or if anyone looked at me.
    I'll be less inclined to be nice about it if someone is gawking these days .

    Everything else, i'm fairly mannerly about.
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    Quote Originally Posted by mnestic View Post
    When I'm with family or my inner circle, it's almost like being alone. I'm more likely to belch
    same as. My friends are just an extension of me so around them it's nothing to just kick back and be myself. In public, around people I don't really know, I have better manners.
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    Manners... are foreign to me; I think it's due to the whole I'll do it how I want complex. I'm very messy when I eat. It's just how I do it, people may at times call it revulsive, but why change and alter something that pleases me for someone I don't know (those watching me). I usually end up saying what I wish too as well, it's funny because those that know me accept this, and those who don't can't really comprehend, or criticize me because they don't. So very few people ever really call me out. SUPERIORITY COMPLEX!!! rawr.

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    I tend to use excellent manners in public and decent manners around family and friends... if it's me by myself everything is finger food
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    Decent manners with family and unkonown eoples, dirty manners with friends.
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    Quote Originally Posted by whatever View Post
    I tend to use excellent manners in public and decent manners around family and friends... if it's me by myself everything is finger food
    Yes I'm almost exactly the same, but replace 'excellent' with 'good'.
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    Quote Originally Posted by whatever View Post
    I tend to use excellent manners in public and decent manners around family and friends... if it's me by myself everything is finger food
    Yeah, that.
    But that's just me.

    I guess the point is I do adjust behavior depending on the situation and the familiarity level of the people around me.
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