One would think these two types would get along great (and sometimes they do), but a lot of times the interactions and dialogue are very strange. And if I think the dialogue is strange, that's saying something.
It's hard to describe. It almost has a vibe like: I know you're different and you know I'm different, I know you're intelligent and have some interesting things to talk about and vice versa, but, for a reason I can't quite put my finger on, this is awkward and I should get going now.
The INTJ throws out some Te explanation, then I kind of turn his explanation upside down and present an alternative or "some other way of looking at it". He looks confused (and perhaps intrigued), ponders a minute, then kind of goes in a different direction and talks about something else. Repeat.
INTP: Someone stole something out my car.
INTJ: I'd be pissed. Are you pissed?
INTP: Well, yeah, but I'm not going to let it affect my "day-to-day".
INTJ: I don't get close to people because I've learned that I can't trust them. Haven't you found that to be the case?
INTP: Well, I don't get close just because I like my alone time and my space, but how do I know if I can or cannot trust someone unless I get close to them? If I get to know them a bit, then and only then can I determine whether I think I can trust them or not. If I never get close to them, then I don't really have enough information to make a decision like that. It would just be pre-judgement or speculation.
INTJ: Hmmm. Goes into his "think tank" while rubbing his beard. (starts talking about something else).
We just don't connect. We respect what each other are saying we both know there's a lot of depth there, but it just gets strange.
It's like there is every reason in the world why the two types should talk and share ideas, but neither really wants to and it just gets - wierd! I walk away not knowing whether to classify the conversation as "really cool" or "from Mars"?
Similar experiences? What are your thoughts after an INTP/INTJ conversation? I'd like to hear from both sides. What is it like for you?