then how'd you get it wrong? i wasn't saying that person is...i was saying that they ought to do better to show that they aren't if they do not want to be seen that way.You did say "if you show someone that you're an asshole they will see you as such". That didn't leave much room for interpretation. You're responsible for the way you word things as well
i edited that part from my post because i don't think anyone is obligated to give information about themselves that they don't want to...including pictures...that is not my argument here at all...i'm simply saying that for me i understand more about someone the more information i have....and i don't care what they look or sound like but i won't know them very well either.Tel then to the scarred faced man or the really fat girl. Sure, people should be proud of who they are...but other people shouldn't care about how they look in the first place.
And if people have the responsibility to show others the truth than others also have the responsibility to not be biased towards them.
i'm not in any way saying you owe it to them. it's not about behaving appropriately. it's about being responsible for you...but who says the most accurate information about ones character is derived from what they can control? i disagree...vibe is important because it's natural.And I agree that we have the responsibility to show others what we want them to know. Responsibility towards ourselves more than others though. But it's one thing to use words and another to use body language. You only have so much control over the vibe you send. And I refuse to play by other people's interpretation model...because people DO evaluate someone else subjectively via their own prisms and perception.
There is no TRUE way to be and that just smells like we should always adjust to other people when speaking, which I don't believe in.