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    Do you always hug people (back) when they initiate hugging you?

    Do you hug people at all?

    What happens with someone you do not like that tries to hug you? Do you limply return the hug? Snub them? What?

    Do you rub peoples backs when you hug - or only if you are "into them like that"?

    Do you hug people to say hello AND goodbye?

    Is hugging awkward for you or natural? Or only natural with some people?

    Feel free to share in general about your philosophy on hugging.
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    Do you always hug people (back) when they initiate hugging you?
    Not always. Depends how awkward I feel :P

    Do you hug people at all?
    I never initiate hugs.

    What happens with someone you do not like that tries to hug you? Do you limply return the hug? Snub them? What?
    Well, it never happened that someone I really do not like hugged me, so I cannot say.

    Do you rub peoples backs when you hug - or only if you are "into them like that"?
    Nah.

    Do you hug people to say hello AND goodbye?
    Only with one part of my family because they initiate it always

    Is hugging awkward for you or natural? Or only natural with some people?
    It is very awkward for me usually. I am already a bit (!) used to above mentioned family members since they do it anyway every time, but with other people I feel very awkward, but that's probably a general issue for me with the lack of trust and self-doubts.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CzeCze View Post
    Do you always hug people (back) when they initiate hugging you?
    Yeah, I'd say.

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    Do you hug people at all?
    Yes. Whenever I can.

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    What happens with someone you do not like that tries to hug you? Do you limply return the hug? Snub them? What?
    This doesn't usually happen to me. I had one friend who really annoyed me for awhile though, and he would open his arms wide in this way like he wanted to be hugged, and I somehow felt compelled to hug him and I hated it so much. I can't really describe. Anyway, I don't feel that way any more. Probably because I don't feel so annoyed.

    Quote Originally Posted by CzeCze View Post
    Do you rub peoples backs when you hug - or only if you are "into them like that"?
    If I love the person/am saying goodbye for a long time. It could be a family member or a close friend. Some times I sort of wiggle a little bit and say mmmmm... (that sounds weird, but it's true).

    Quote Originally Posted by CzeCze View Post
    Do you hug people to say hello AND goodbye?
    Same as above.

    Actually at the end of my first internship, I wanted to hug everyone goodbye and I told the other intern and asked if he thought it would be weird, and he said "well, that depends how you want to be remembered. If you want to be remembered like a little kid, then you should hug, but if you want to be remembered in a professional manner, then shaking hands is more appropriate." I felt a little bit sad but did the shaking hands, because I believed him about being professional.

    Quote Originally Posted by CzeCze View Post
    Is hugging awkward for you or natural? Or only natural with some people?
    I'd say only natural with some people. Rather, it's only awkward with some people.

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    Feel free to share in general about your philosophy on hugging.
    Hugging is great for your mental/emotional/psychological well-being.
    Your kisses, sweeter than honey. But guess what, so is my money.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CzeCze View Post
    Do you always hug people (back) when they initiate hugging you?

    Do you hug people at all?

    What happens with someone you do not like that tries to hug you? Do you limply return the hug? Snub them? What?

    Do you rub peoples backs when you hug - or only if you are "into them like that"?

    Do you hug people to say hello AND goodbye?

    Is hugging awkward for you or natural? Or only natural with some people?

    Feel free to share in general about your philosophy on hugging.
    I go ahead and hug whoever initiates it. It doesn't bother me and it doesn't seem awkward to me so I just do it. I'll pat the back or do whatever seems appropriate for the situation. I'm pretty sure that I've never initiated a hug in my entire life, though, with the exception of hugging a romantic partner. Even then, it's not a formal hug. It lasts longer and leads to other things. I just like physical affection with women. (But this usually only happens with someone I'm already in a relationship with. I never touch women unless I'm pretty sure it's okay - I've always thought was a big no-no.)

    Beyond just wanting to touch the hot female body of someone I love, I think hugs make no sense and if other people didn't do it all the time, the idea would have never even occurred to me.
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    When I was younger, I didn't snub the hugs, but I did the limp return hug. So that always felt awkward. But then I just started mirroring the hugs I was getting. If they do the pat/rub on the back thing, so do I, if it's a strong or weak hug, I do that.

    Hug length can still be hard though. Some people don't let off until you start letting off. But if the other person is distressed or sad, they get extra allotted time!

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    Do you always hug people (back) when they initiate hugging you? No.

    Do you hug people at all? Rather not 99% of the time.

    What happens with someone you do not like that tries to hug you? Do you limply return the hug? Snub them? What? They wouldn't, I don't give off a vibe that encourages it.

    Do you rub peoples backs when you hug - or only if you are "into them like that"? No.

    Do you hug people to say hello AND goodbye? Family are the only people who I really let hug me, so yep.

    Is hugging awkward for you or natural? Or only natural with some people? Family and partner aside it's something I find uncomfortable more than awkward.

    Feel free to share in general about your philosophy on hugging. Don't touch me.

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    Do you always hug people (back) when they initiate hugging you?
    Depends.

    Do you hug people at all?
    Sometimes.

    What happens with someone you do not like that tries to hug you? Do you limply return the hug? Snub them? What?
    I step back. I tell them, "no, thank you".

    Do you rub peoples backs when you hug - or only if you are "into them like that"?
    I'm not sure what the last part means. I can only remember rubbing a back when the person is crying or really distressed and I'm close to them.

    Do you hug people to say hello AND goodbye?
    Not usually. If they initiate it and I'm comfortable, I follow their lead.

    Is hugging awkward for you or natural? Or only natural with some people?
    Awkward mostly, even with my family. It only feels natural if it's a close friend or lover. I prefer the handshake if it seems appropriate to make physical contact.

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    Do you always hug people (back) when they initiate hugging you?

    yes

    Do you hug people at all?

    yep

    What happens with someone you do not like that tries to hug you? Do you limply return the hug? Snub them? What?

    i dont think that anyone i dont like ever hugged me. if someone would id probably just give brief hug back and try to get away as soon as possible

    Do you rub peoples backs when you hug - or only if you are "into them like that"?

    sometimes. is there some etiquette that if you rub someone back when hugging you like them "like that"?

    Do you hug people to say hello AND goodbye?

    i do this about 90% of times with female friends and rarely with male friends, usually only when they need a hug or if they are drunk enough to hug when i see them

    Is hugging awkward for you or natural? Or only natural with some people?

    quite natural, but in some situations and with some people it might be bit awkward to iniate hugging

    Feel free to share in general about your philosophy on hugging.

    hugging females is fun

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    Do you always hug people (back) when they initiate hugging you?
    Yes.

    Do you hug people at all?
    Yes, on a pretty regular basis, but only with certain people.

    What happens with someone you do not like that tries to hug you? Do you limply return the hug? Snub them? What?
    I don't think this happened to me, ever. I give off a rather stony vibe IRL.

    Do you rub peoples backs when you hug - or only if you are "into them like that"?
    Only if I really like/love someone and they're in need of comforting.

    Do you hug people to say hello AND goodbye?
    I don't, but someone outside my family used to do this with me. I liked it while it lasted. I wish she'd start doing it again.

    Is hugging awkward for you or natural? Or only natural with some people?
    Natural with some people.

    Feel free to share in general about your philosophy on hugging.
    My hugs are reserved for special people.
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    Quote Originally Posted by INTP View Post
    Do you rub peoples backs when you hug - or only if you are "into them like that"?

    sometimes. is there some etiquette that if you rub someone back when hugging you like them "like that"?



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    LOL no, I think I was thinking about the difference between "sexy hugs" or "hugs with extra intent" versus "family hugs", "consoling hugs", "casual hugs" etc.
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