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    Do you always hug people (back) when they initiate hugging you?

    -Yes

    Do you hug people at all?

    -Yes

    What happens with someone you do not like that tries to hug you? Do you limply return the hug? Snub them? What?

    -I give them a short half ass hug back.

    Do you rub peoples backs when you hug - or only if you are "into them like that"?

    -Only if they need it..if they are feeling down or something like that...and i have to know them too ofcoarse, otherwise that would just be weird. I feel a little violated when people do that to me and I dont know them that well.

    Do you hug people to say hello AND goodbye?

    -Yes, but sometimes when im in a weird mood and wont hug good bye again. I feel bad for making people feel awkward when that happens, I should be consistent lol.

    Is hugging awkward for you or natural? Or only natural with some people?

    -Hugs good bye are awkward sometimes for some weird reason. Its always natural when saying hello though.

    Feel free to share in general about your philosophy on hugging.

    -Hugs are usually always a warm welcome . But the other night some stranger at a friends house asked me for a hug....he thought i felt out of place and thought i needed one I guess. I gave him a half ass hug...it was weird. He tried to make it a good hug...but it didnt feel right lol.

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    I can't even remember when it was the last time when I did any kind of a hug.
    So I can't tell to be honest.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Antisocial one View Post
    I can't even remember when it was the last time when I did any kind of a hug.
    So I can't tell to be honest.
    that should do it
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    Do you always hug people (back) when they initiate hugging you?
    Yes.

    Do you hug people at all?
    I'm usually just reciprocating rather than initiating, but sure.

    What happens with someone you do not like that tries to hug you? Do you limply return the hug? Snub them? What?
    I can't remember this ever happening. I like most people, to an extent, and I don't give off huggable vibes. I'd probably just be courteous and hug them back.

    Do you rub peoples backs when you hug - or only if you are "into them like that"
    ?
    If a man is hugging me I'll slap him on the back as a way of saying "sure we're hugging, but I'm still hitting you." Rubbing women on the back seems awkward, particularly because of bra-related complications.

    Do you hug people to say hello AND goodbye?

    If they are into that kind of thing, you bet.

    Is hugging awkward for you or natural? Or only natural with some people?
    Natural with most people, although sometimes it takes a few hugs with someone new to establish some kind of protocol.

    Feel free to share in general about your philosophy on hugging.

    I wish people were more receptive to it. I rarely initiate out of fear of making someone uncomfortable, but I would like to hug more people regularly. With the right people, hugging is a great connection.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CzeCze View Post
    Do you always hug people (back) when they initiate hugging you?
    Yeah. I'm a hugger.

    Do you hug people at all?
    Yeah. I'm a hugger.

    What happens with someone you do not like that tries to hug you? Do you limply return the hug? Snub them? What?
    What blankpages said:
    Quote Originally Posted by blankpages View Post
    I give them a brief, limp, one-arm thing to be polite. I don't like it much, but it isn't worth making into a big deal.
    Do you rub peoples backs when you hug - or only if you are "into them like that"?
    I don't do back-rubbing mid-hug.

    Do you hug people to say hello AND goodbye?
    Yes!

    Is hugging awkward for you or natural? Or only natural with some people?
    I guess only natural with some people, but it's generally okay with anyone who qualifies as a friend and doesn't hate hugging.

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    Quote Originally Posted by yourfriendjaneen View Post
    Do you always hug people (back) when they initiate hugging you?
    Yes. Unless I'm in a rush, otherwise I reciprocate, Unless it's someone I don't want hugging me, then, in the words of Michael Jackson.. " BEAT IT!"


    Do you hug people at all?
    Yes. Only my best friends, or if someone is leaving for a long period of time. I.e: a Long trip/vacation.

    What happens with someone you do not like that tries to hug you? Do you limply return the hug? Snub them? What?
    depends on who. If it's a female, its quick, one tap on the back.

    If it's a guy, I close my arms, or not hug them back and let them dangle, also keep your crotch away from me.


    Do you rub peoples backs when you hug - or only if you are "into them like that"?
    Only if it's my bestfriends, and they need comfort and reassurance. I'll rub till it's raw. x)


    Do you hug people to say hello AND goodbye?
    Again, Only my best-friends hahahaha.

    Otherwise, that would be weird and tiresome.

    Is hugging awkward for you or natural? Or only natural with some people?
    It's really awkward overall for me...

    Sometimes, it's just right though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CzeCze View Post
    Do you hug people at all?
    No.

    There was no hugging in my family as I was raised. Seeing other people hug always seemed a little odd. I'm not comfortable with touching in general.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CzeCze View Post
    Do you always hug people (back) when they initiate hugging you?
    Yes...sometimes limply if I'm surprised. Though I recently had some things happen that made me think about my 'hugging policy' and start this thread.

    Do you hug people at all?
    Yes, it seems like a natural and even expected way to greet people.

    What happens with someone you do not like that tries to hug you? Do you limply return the hug? Snub them? What?
    Oh man, this is the question I need help answering - i.e. how *should* I respond?

    I was caught off guard by some Women I Really Don't Like and an ex (I don't want to see) hugging me - all in the same freaking night - recently. Caught me very off guard.

    They initiated hugs...why?? Why???

    It feels fake to/of me to hug back and 'accept' their hug when I honestly can't stand them and do not even want to be interacting with them.

    Do you rub peoples backs when you hug - or only if you are "into them like that"?
    I think sometimes I rub backs...So many of my friends are "huggers" and some do this too.

    Do you hug people to say hello AND goodbye?
    With friends, yes! Others...it's sporadic.

    Is hugging awkward for you or natural? Or only natural with some people?
    It feels naturally awkward/awkwardly natural.

    Feel free to share in general about your philosophy on hugging.
    I like hugs, getting over my non-touchy feely nature.

    Quote Originally Posted by Feops View Post
    No.

    There was no hugging in my family as I was raised. Seeing other people hug always seemed a little odd. I'm not comfortable with touching in general.
    I was raised in a similar no-hug environment but my friends now mostly hug - to say hello as well as to say goodbye. I think I was and am a naturally warm/expressive person but this was quashed by my upbringing and environment until I struck out on my own. It took a while to 'thaw out' (har har har) and I'm still in the process of figuring out what is 'natural' to me.

    Now being an NF goofball sometimes I feel compulsions to hug people multiple times just because I'm so happy to see them/say goodbye.
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    Quote Originally Posted by CzeCze View Post
    Do you always hug people (back) when they initiate hugging you?
    Yes, but the degree to which I do will vary accordingly as to where that person is on the continuum of "I Wouldn't Piss On You if You Were On Fire" to "I Love You Dearly."

    Quote Originally Posted by CzeCze View Post
    Do you hug people at all?
    Yup! I'm a hugger!

    Quote Originally Posted by CzeCze View Post
    What happens with someone you do not like that tries to hug you? Do you limply return the hug? Snub them? What?
    I fart. Then I smile.

    Quote Originally Posted by CzeCze View Post
    Do you rub peoples backs when you hug - or only if you are "into them like that"?
    I'm not rubber, I'm a hugger. The one person that will hold onto me and rub my back when she hugs me is my Mother, and she is entitled, and I hold on as long as she does.

    If I am sincerely glad to see someone they will most likely get a bear hug and lose contact with the ground.

    Quote Originally Posted by CzeCze View Post
    Do you hug people to say hello AND goodbye?
    It depends.

    Quote Originally Posted by CzeCze View Post
    Is hugging awkward for you or natural? Or only natural with some people?
    It's natural to me, but I don't go cuckoo bananas with it. Allowing someone into your personal space, which is within three feet of your body, is considered an act of trust. That's why shaking someone's hand is a simple act of trust. Hugging is a step further into that continuum, I believe. If someone wanted to do you great harm, it would be very easy for them to if they had immediate bodily contact to your torso, neck, and face. So, we implicitly trust those that we hug/allow to hug us.

    Quote Originally Posted by CzeCze View Post
    Feel free to share in general about your philosophy on hugging.
    When I hug Mrs. Halla my hips get involved and then the walls start taking a beating. Those are my favorite hugs of all.
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    Do you always hug people (back) when they initiate hugging you?

    Yes, the intensity of the hug depends on how close I am to you though

    Do you hug people at all?

    Of course

    What happens with someone you do not like that tries to hug you? Do you limply return the hug? Snub them? What?

    Hmm, well I dont think this has happened before, but if it were to I'd probably limply return the hug for like 2 seconds lol

    Do you rub peoples backs when you hug - or only if you are "into them like that"?

    I find that to be a comforting gesture, or when you're really happy to see them, so I'd do that to anyone I'm close with if I felt they needed it.


    Do you hug people to say hello AND goodbye?

    If they're okay with it yes, and probably only with close friends/family/a lover. As a kid I did all the time, now I just smile and wave awkwardly lol

    Is hugging awkward for you or natural? Or only natural with some people?


    Both, it's awkwardly natural!

    Feel free to share in general about your philosophy on hugging.

    I love hugging, I'm a hugger. But I'm also really shy so I'm hesitant to do it
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