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    Do you always hug people (back) when they initiate hugging you?
    Generally, yes.

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    Do you hug people at all?
    If you mean "take the initiative and hug", generally (but not always) no. I don't think I've ever refused a hug, though.

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    What happens with someone you do not like that tries to hug you? Do you limply return the hug? Snub them? What?
    I don't think this has ever happened. I don't give a very approachable vibe, so people I'm not close to don't even try (even when they're hugging everyone else in the room).

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    Do you rub peoples backs when you hug - or only if you are "into them like that"?
    No, not really. In an "into them like that" situation, perhaps.

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    Do you hug people to say hello AND goodbye?
    Depends on the person. If I'm going to hug them at all, I have no objections to the hi-hug and the bye-hug.

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    Is hugging awkward for you or natural? Or only natural with some people?
    Natural. But I'm selective .
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    Do you always hug people (back) when they initiate hugging you?
    Yes.

    Do you hug people at all?

    All the time.

    What happens with someone you do not like that tries to hug you? Do you limply return the hug? Snub them? What?
    Usually I return with a 'wimpy' hug, very light, very unfeeling. I may pat their back with one hand as opposed to wrapping both arms securely around them.

    Do you rub peoples backs when you hug - or only if you are "into them like that"?
    I don't think I'm a back rubber. :/ Sounds kind of icky for a casual hug.

    Do you hug people to say hello AND goodbye?
    Depending on our degree of closeness, yes. But if we're not close, it's generally just a hug goodbye.

    Is hugging awkward for you or natural? Or only natural with some people?
    Hugging is only awkward for me if I don't really know you, or don't like you. Otherwise it feels pretty natural.
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    Quote Originally Posted by CzeCze View Post
    Feel free to share in general about your philosophy on hugging.
    I generally only hug people if

    1. They hug me, or
    2. I'm really good friends with them, and they've hugged me in the past.

    I never want to be the first person to hug, in a friendship/relationship, because I don't want to do anything "wrong" socially. So, I only hug when I know that it's okay to hug. Precedent first!

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    Do you always hug people (back) when they initiate hugging you? Usually

    Do you hug people at all? I do. It took awhile to get comfortable with it.

    What happens with someone you do not like that tries to hug you? Do you limply return the hug? Snub them? What? If I don't like them they don't hug me.

    Do you rub peoples backs when you hug - or only if you are "into them like that"? Only the kids and ENFJ man.

    Do you hug people to say hello AND goodbye? Not both.

    Is hugging awkward for you or natural? Or only natural with some people? Not natural to me. Unless it's a kid or an animal.

    Feel free to share in general about your philosophy on hugging. I think it's overused personally.
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    Do you always hug people (back) when they initiate hugging you?
    Yes, i do.
    Do you hug people at all?
    Yes, frequently. I feel awkward if i don't and the person/people are relevant.
    What happens with someone you do not like that tries to hug you? Do you limply return the hug? Snub them? What?
    I tend to hug back, but it's less likely to be a lengthy hug. I won't initiate very often with people i don't like.
    Do you rub peoples backs when you hug - or only if you are "into them like that"?
    Sometimes. It's more of a consoling action or for people i haven't seen in a long time.
    Do you hug people to say hello AND goodbye?
    Yes-sir!
    Is hugging awkward for you or natural? Or only natural with some people?
    Natural in almost all cases. It only becomes awkward if i can't gauge the other person.

    Hmm. I've had to get a few people used to hugging, which is interesting. My group of friends is the sort that hugs constantly. It's strange if we run into people who aren't used to that, but we appear alien to them.
    My family is certainly like that too. Everyone should just be happy that i don't keep up the cheek-kissing trend past my family
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    Do you always hug people (back) when they initiate hugging you?
    Not if I don't like them.
    Do you hug people at all?
    I only hug people who are very, very close to me. I don't even really like hugging friends. If I start hugging someone, it means I really trust and like them, but if someone starts hugging me I usually let them if I like them, even though it feels awkward to me.
    What happens with someone you do not like that tries to hug you? Do you limply return the hug? Snub them? What?
    I push them away.
    Do you rub peoples backs when you hug - or only if you are "into them like that"?
    I don't know, maybe I do, maybe I don't. I never payed attention to it.
    Do you hug people to say hello AND goodbye?
    No. That has it's own awkward rituals.
    Is hugging awkward for you or natural? Or only natural with some people?
    It's only natural with epople I'm really, really close to.
    Feel free to share in general about your philosophy on hugging.
    Hugging is probably the most intimate a person can do. Everyone kisses random people at bars and sex is so unspecial you can even buy it. But hugs are the most special things you can give someone, it's a sign of trust and friendship.
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    Quote Originally Posted by CzeCze View Post
    Do you always hug people (back) when they initiate hugging you?

    yup!

    Do you hug people at all?

    I am a hugging machine, I hug everyone.

    What happens with someone you do not like that tries to hug you? Do you limply return the hug? Snub them? What?

    I hug them right back, I know that when I want a hug I dont care who hugs me so who am I to deny a hug

    Do you rub peoples backs when you hug - or only if you are "into them like that"?

    I rub peoples back and if we are really close like family or best friends I will grab their hair, nothing sexual I just feel close to them.

    Do you hug people to say hello AND goodbye?

    yea I will say hello and goodbye while hugging to

    Is hugging awkward for you or natural? Or only natural with some people?

    100% natural I was hugged a lot as a kid and even as I grew up thats what we did

    Feel free to share in general about your philosophy on hugging.
    When I am sad or angry there is nothing better then to be hugged, be by a loved one or a stranger.
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    I am a selective hugger, but pretty comfortable with it as long as it seems the motives for hugging are not creepy. I'm not much of a back rubber during hugs unless it's with an SO or maybe in the occasional case of someone very close to me dealing with grief so difficult that comfort is best conveyed in that form. I'm not usually the initiator unless I know someone well, just because I don't want to impose and am not sure of their comfort levels. As a result, some people have told me that I give off don't touch me vibes, although I seem warm and frequently almost touch them.

    It really depends on the person initiating the hug (or physical touch) and how much it is a part of their personality, the context, their comfort with it or their reasons for doing it that makes me respond in one way or another. It isn't necessarily based on how long I've known someone. If I don't care to be hugged, I will try to make it a side hug or do the A frame back pat. I'd prefer though if I feel strongly against hugging the person to just manipulate circumstances so that it would be very difficult to hug me. I've probably gotten less concerned about being rude than I used to be, particularly if I have made it clear to the other person that I do not want to hug them.

    I think maybe hugging is a bit of a generational thing - for example, my mother doesn't feel that hugging people (especially of the opposite sex) hello and goodbye is appropriate. However, most of the people my age would naturally do that rather than shake hands in some contexts and I feel fine with doing that. I don't tend to be really huggy with people who have an SO and dislike the hugging everyone hello at church thing that some people do. The other week though, I saw a bunch of music instructors at a workshop, whom I hadn't seen for quite awhile. It seemed perfectly appropriate to warmly hug them all hello and good-bye. During university I was annoyed though at the people in our music department that wanted to hug several times a day. It just seemed either artificial or overkill. I probably would hug a family member or SO most days though as they walked out the door.

    I spent a few summers in Quebec and at first felt really weird about doing the kiss kiss thing in greeting and good-bye which is standard there, even when first meeting people. I realized after though that it is actually nice - warmer and more hygenic than a handshake, yet less body contact than a hug. I had never really thought about how reserved English Canada is compared to French Canada in that way. I also found that in general the French Canadians I know are much more touchy than most people here would naturally be, touching an arm, hand or leg to emphasize a point etc.

    When I lived in Madison, Wisconsin, I was surprised at how many younger/university age people still frequently would shake hands all around when meeting someone their own age. That seems to have largely disappeared (at least in my area of the country) among people my age, unless in a formal or professional setting.

    I always wondered how the one cheek kiss greeting works for people (eg two women friends or guest on talk show etc) and if that's a real life thing, or just mostly in movies/TV.

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    i don't really like hugs except for with someone i'm dating and sometimes my mom or sisters.

    i don't mind casual hello/goodbye hugs from close friends but they're very nonchalant casual 2 sec hugs.

    and if someone tried to hug me that i wasn't close to i would pull back.
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    I agree with Fidelia. I don't mind hugging, and don't make a big deal out of it, but I hate the creepy excuse-to-touch-you hug. I will try to make it clear with body language that they should not proceed, or I'll throw a hand out for them to shake. If they're pervs, they should be used to that sort of thing.

    I hate hugging people who give you the limp hug or the tepid backpat. Gross. Don't hug me if that's what you want to do. It makes me want to shudder afterwards.

    I really hate people who want to casually kiss you on the lips. Who thinks that is okay?
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