Ever since I began frequenting forums (2005), people have thought I was a guy. I cannot tell you how many times I've heard this.
Why do they think this? Do most of you women get this?
What sort of thing makes you assume someone's a dude? How do the more obvious women write?
I initially thought you were a dude because of your username, writing style and your then current avatar, (which was of some hippie dude wearing a hat).
Back at my first forum, when I was really nitty gritty about debating with folks, despite my feminine username, and despite my self-portrait-esque avatars, people would still accuse me of being a dude.
'Cause you can't handle me...
"A lie is a lie even if everyone believes it. The truth is the truth even if nobody believes it." - David Stevens
"That that is, is. That that is not, is not. Is that it? It is."
Disregard...not sure if I typed you as a guy...don't think I did.
I have only had this issue of mistyping gender with (a few) ENTP women on this forum. I think it's a combo of 'gender neutral' or seemingly 'masculine' names and avatars with a very unembellished, straightforward speaking style. IRL the speech patterns for women is likewise more embellished than men, with the voice going up and down a lot more, and I think women tend to ask more 'checking in' questions like "Really? Is that so? How's that?" etc.
I think when you see text only it is by definition 'gender neutral' (which means masculine) but adding visuals and signifiers like pictures/avatars/names/signatures makes a big difference.
No matter how you were typing if your username was "Big Bad Dave Likes Girls" and you had a picture of a Harley and a quote by Nietzsche in your sig, I think people would think you were a dude...or maybe an ironic lesbian...or be confused.
Last edited by CzeCze; 05-20-2010 at 12:41 AM.
Reason: added qualifiers
“If you want to tell people the truth, make them laugh, otherwise they'll kill you.” ― Oscar Wilde