So, basically I've been considering fine-tuning my behavior for a variety of reasons. The question is, how can one be sincere and still behave in a way that is not natural?
I'm a contrarian and aggressive asshole. I have a motherload of Fi though, and would like to convey it more in the way I interact with people. Thing is...that would destroy my sincerity if all I want to say a certain situation is "AH! Sucker!" (after your mom died), right?
I've been trying to be nicer to people, the truth is I generally like people (even though I tend to find them stupid), but the message doesn't always get across because I'm too busy being a dick. It's instinctual. When I try being nice, it throws people off as well as myself. It feels force. So, is there a way to change and still feel sincere and authentic?
Because the assholeish remarks are part of my self-image.