I'm actually an ENFP. It's just there as a hint to my shadow nature and to fight bias when newcomers read my posts.I understand where an ISTJ would need things to jive first before doing it.
I have a very high Fi. It overthrows my Ne most of the time. This picture of the reckless ENFP just isn't me at all.That to me is trying it on. Experiencers do things differently then introverts.
I don't understand what you are hinting at here.I have made a comment "I like the way you make me feel". I tend to try people on alot The only time I have huge problems while being married is not the fact that I tried someone on, but its dependent on the combination of feelings that I tried on. Its strange and hard to explain, but I can do the exact same action while trying on a different feeling. This is a struggle for me right now and I am learning and changing, but I am doing it through experience and I may stumble at times, but I am growing and changing in a way that fits myself.