No I don't think Amar is using more Fi. Fi fuels a strong value system, having empathy, and feelings things deeply and it doesn't necessarily imply gentleness, delicacy, or tact. That seriously sounds like Fe...unless Amar's personal Fi value system strongly resembles Fe, which is of course possible.
Exactly. Gentleness, delicacy or tact have nothing to do with Fi.
Fwiw, Orobas, I do think I use Fi and not Fe. I guess I use Fe to start with..to give me time to scout the person without revealing myself and meanwhile be socially present. I use the Fe-tricks that are in agreeance with my own values, to do this.
After that, once I get one on one with the person, I do skip past the social niceties and get down to asking questions and mirroring the person in front of me, to sync up. It's the quid pro quo system. You tell me something, I show a glimpse of who I am on the same topic. And so on and so forth. Pacing. I've found that dropping an emo lake on people is just going to make most people go wtf. I used to get that reaction from people a lot when I was younger. They all loved me the first time (it's a fun show), but if I went on for too long, too intensely or did it repeatedly, they'd recoil, not knowing how to handle it. Hence..I learned how to pace. And only share with those that are open to it and able to handle it.
i could describe myself...but it would likely not be the same as describing my enfp sister or either of the other two enfp girls i know....but i'll try to list what i see as common traits
like to tease people...meaning giving them hell in a jokey way
would do anything for a friend
not driven by money
judge people by strength of character and their heart
endless energy for fun stuff
love great conversation
love to laugh
sometimes crave the spotlight
likes to exaggerate for effect
twisted sense of humor
can be blunt or crass
getting long and boring so i'll stop.
There can’t be any large-scale revolution until there’s a personal revolution, on an individual level. It’s got to happen inside first.
I'll also throw out there that as much as I love ENFPs, they are batshit insane (from my chilled out perspective) when they are stressed out. Both my mother and girlfriend are ENFPs and when they start stressing out about something I just want to grab them and say CALM DOWN.