The three friends most special to me:
INTJ (female, real-life)
INTJ (female, online, she lives in Canada)
INFP (male) (real-life boyfriend of my real-life best friend)
I just wanted to proclaim my affection for these people.
My online friend. She’s endearingly awkward and has a lot of the confidence issues I have. She’s a hard worker, the first born, and often pushes herself to the breaking point. Exceptionally well-spoken, but almost too polite and sweet with me (I see it a bit as coddling, since in the beginning of our friendship there was largely – I should say, almost /too/ much affection between us, and even though our friendship has changed significantly, she still always greets with an affectionate term such as ‘sweetheart’ or ‘darling’ and uses a smilie. Sometimes, I’d just like her to say ‘Hi, whatcha up to’ instead of using the same pleasantry and affection. But I just love her naivety and not-quite-sure of herself approach when it comes to me and relationships in general.
On the other hand, she seems to withdraw from contact with me and others in her life on a regular basis (she’s a type five on the Enneagram). I also experience frequent withdrawal for lack of confidence and energy, so we have this in common. In fact, we have a lot in common, but less than my real-life INTJ friend, I think. We do have many similar fears and anxieties. And, aww, I’m so endeared to her. We’ve known each other online for something like four years. She ended it after two and half years, I think, because I became extremely unhealthy psychologically and was much too hostile toward her (and everyone, really; another word is ‘needy’). So for a year and half we weren’t friends, and because the friendship did end on very awful terms I think neither of us expected to ever be friends again or even to speak. But I still read her journal during the interim, and had a feeling she read mine, so finally one day I just said in my own journal, not knowing what the outcome would be, “Brittany, I enjoy your journal.” I really wanting to rekindle a friendship between us but didn’t know how she’d respond, and the very next day an email popped up in my inbox from her, saying she really admired me as a person and in many ways, and would like to be friends and try again.
Our communication varies from ok to great – you gotta cut us some slack, this is a difficult medium - but we have our misunderstandings. For one thing, she takes a lot of pride in her intelligence, and probably thinks she’s quite a bit smarter than me, which may or may not be justified, but it puts me off and inhibits our communication occasionally because she sees some of her concepts as “very difficult for me to understand.” The problem is I really want to see where she's coming from but if she thinks I won't understand, she won't explain. This has only happened once, but it was recent, and it really irked me.
My real-life friend. GREAT connection, because we share similar senses of humor, and most if not all of the same complaints and opinions. She’s very confident usually and channels her own path. Hilarious. She’s a huge slacker and complainer and doesn’t feel the need to appear hardworking or pleasant or what have you, for anyone’s sake – I admire that to-the-point self-presentation and lack of social fear. I think this one is a type six rather than a five, and she agrees with that assessment. We see eye-to-eye on nearly everything, but I also think I feel pretty comfortable disagreeing with her and vice versa. She has extreme anxiety attacks, particularly in relation to automobiles (inferior Se?), and is a health fanatic, taking vitamins and constantly reading the ingredients for things (she knows more about harmful ingredients than anyone I’ve ever met). Great memory (she claims she can remember any birthday ever mentioned to her, even if only once, and so far this has proven amazingly true). Hmm… what else? I don’t know. She’s just awesome, lol. I miss going to school with her and sharing all our woes every day; she’s the best person to go to school with and eat lunch with every day. I love her. =)
My INFP friend is much newer to my life. I think my best friend tried to set us up, but that didn’t come close to happening, haha. We went on one date, and his hurried asking-me-out was quite unexpected. I admire his bravery. (The movie we went to see was Pan's Labyrinth, and we both quite enjoyed and admired it.) He withdraws from people and the world more than anyone I know; he’s often in his own world and inaccessible. But he’s very sweet and warm most of the time, and I LOVE his sense of humor. He sometimes draws really funny comics on the spot. I adore him, but am also sometimes shortchanged by him; he often ignores me or leaves me behind, not because I think he means to, but probably just because he’s in his own head. He likes to laugh, and is pretty adorable once you get to know him. Spontaneous and often very lovably enthusiastic about something. He’s a bit of a paradox; cold sometimes but warm a lot of the time. Hmm. Oh yeah, he and the INTJ are dating. I always knew they had feelings for each other, so it was a bit of a non-event when they started dating. Me, the INTJ, and the INFP hang out every weekend. =)