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    Quote Originally Posted by entropie View Post
    Since you start assuming I got commitment issues...
    The sarcasm didn't translate well, did it?

    As for the rest of my post, it's genuine advice. I don't know you and can't pick your brain apart. But I do know that often, just doing it is the better alternative then thinking about it. At the very least you will know how you feel about it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by entropie View Post
    Since you start assuming I got commitment issues and the conversation is takin a very plain dumb path, I am gonna intercept with a new theory.

    Maybe, it's in the end who I am. Someone who does love his girl and someone who wants to be loved, but someone aswell who wants to be taken to a new dimension every moment in his relationship. Someone who cant express that he loves someone.
    If we're working with the "this is who I am" theory, sort of like the love languages stuff, how would you feel if your GF was hypothetically a verbal love-expresser but not a physical love-expresser? What if that was "who she was" and she didn't want to find your wavelength?

    I think you can figure out how to use your words, Entropie.
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    *Faith is the art of holding on to things your reason once accepted, despite your changing moods.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Usehername View Post
    If we're working with the "this is who I am" theory, sort of like the love languages stuff, how would you feel if your GF was hypothetically a verbal love-expresser but not a physical love-expresser? What if that was "who she was" and she didn't want to find your wavelength?

    I think you can figure out how to use your words, Entropie.
    I needed much time in my life to find a girl that likes me.

    I am not a big fan of being fair in a relationship, cause I'ld choose a girl for the things I love and she'ld choose me for the things she loves.

    But since our relationship developed I found out more things about her and especially the one thing about her wanting to hear the three words more regulary. And that came as a surprise to me, cause I am not very experienced with needing any other person that is not me.

    I just didnt want to be perceived as someone who is insecure about his commitment. My girlfriend is very female and I am digging in her world as deep as I ever got to know that female world.

    I dont know, I think morales and ethics aint made for everyone. My hope is that that as a shady person can one day find commitment aswell and that's how I see myself.

    I envy my girlfriend for her conviction, every day a new.

    And I hate her at the same time for it
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    Well, I am not sure what you mean about that last comment, but as far as the "I love you" thing goes....

    Can you imagine what it must feel like to her? To love you and have you withhold a sense of security and of knowing (not just assuming) that you do indeed love her too? Isn't giving that to her more important than your pride? It's pretty selfish, if you ask me. I know it is hard to be vulnerable, but try to put your self in her shoes. How would YOU feel if you were her? Scared? Frustrated? Uncertain?

    Just sign it in a greeting card or spit it out and give the girl the words that it sounds like she earns every day of her life.
    "Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. " - Dr. Seuss
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    I dont think its a thing to her she feels very emotional about. Its more like the tip of the iceberg to her if I'ld remember to say it regulary. To make it perfect.

    And what makes me say that is that she had around 15 guys before me and her longest relationship lastet 3 months.

    And the very little empathy I got, combined with a pretentious knack to ask what she thinks every single minute.
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    I dont know what I am basically searching for, regarding that topic. It may be a single point to prove many things, as in we ain't all psychic and can just give an opinion on a topic by our feelings or thoughts we had when reading it; cause in my opinion I think the world is far more complex than any of us can ever perceive.

    I am a joke against my girl, she is the one who helps me understand humans in the first place and her insights are everytime a complete surprise to me but they make sense, they do make sense.

    She has a very dark view about mankind and she wants to run away often; she has a "not-a-single-failure" opinion towards her relationships and that I made it so far for 5 years, is rational proof for me that I have it in me and that I am not a bad man.

    I think, as always when opening threads, its not the immediate questions that concerns, its the variety of implications it has. I dont think that I am ever able to express what I am thinking that's why I love intps so much, cause they have the knack to make one feel like they know whats going on.

    I will forget about this matter and put it to rest for me. I will not force myself to say I love you at all. I have said it in the past, when I wanted it and I will not change that.

    And however big my love for her might become, I wont change the one who I am. I rather want to grow to know and love that more with her help that it may be more easier to say the three words or she will leave me because I dont do it.

    But I will not think about myself, cause I do not have the capability to see myself from the right PoV, I will rather enjoy my life with her and take in her wisdom and change how I feel about myself and life.

    And then maybe, maybe one day, I'll reach my goal. Totally free of opinion from the outside world.

    This is btw. the first day I am home again and as a recovered drug addict I have to say to drink two german beers again after three weeks of absence really killed me
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    And I thought you infps are readers
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    Well, I know it's kind of late
    I hope I didn't wake you
    But what I got to say can't wait
    I know you'd understand
    'Cause every time I tried to tell you
    The words just came out wrong
    So I'll have to say I love you in a song

    Yeah, I know it's kind of strange
    But every time I'm near you
    I just run out of things to say
    I know you'd understand
    'Cause every time I tried to tell you
    The words just came out wrong
    So I'll have to say I love you in a song

    'Cause Every time the time was right
    All the words just came out wrong
    So I'll have to say I love you in a song

    Yeah, I know it's kind of late
    I hope I didn't wake you
    But there's something that I just got to say
    I know you'd understand
    'Cause every time I tried to tell you
    The words just came out wrong
    So I'll have to say I love you in a song

    --Jim Croce

    This is not the original, but can't get it on YouTube anywhere.

    But this gives you the idea, and the idea is what I want to convey ...

    [YOUTUBE="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CGtR8AJFuqw"]I'll Have to Say I Love You in a Song[/YOUTUBE]

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    thank you
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    Quote Originally Posted by entropie View Post
    thank you
    They do it 'cause they love you.

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