So today, I was listening to the radio and they were talking about a caller who had called in about his four year old son who wanted to dress up as first a fairy for Halloween. The father didn't know how to tell his son that that was a girl's costume so he told the boy that it wouldn't fit him and to pick something else. He showed his son pirate, ninja, king, etc outfits but the boy didn't like any of it and then picked a princess costume. The father not knowing what to do, left the costume store without buying his son anything. So he was asking the people on the radio for advice.
What do you think?
If you had kids or if you have kids:
- Would you allow your son to dress up as a fairy, or princess or ballerina? Why or why not?
- What if it was your daughter, would you let her dress up as a pirate or ninja or prince charming? Why or why not?
Do you think it is appropriate for us, as adults/parents to tell our kid (who may be too young to understand gender roles/sterotypes) to tell our kid what is for a boy or girl?
Personally, I think I would have a problem if my son wanted to dress up as a girl or as something very feminine (such as a fairy or ballerina). But then, I was thinking, that's not really fair and yet I can't change my opinion on that. Is society's pressure on what our gender roles are and how we should act/dress so deeply ingrained in me?
Do you think it's a double standard for us when we would most likely allow girls to dress up as guys but yet not let guys dress up as girls?
One more thing, does the age of the child matter? For example, would it change if the kid was 3-7 or 8-12 or 13-17?
I'm wondering because I might have a harder time with a young boy wanting to dress up as a girl but if he was a teenager (and was trying to be different or cool at school) and wanted to dress up as a girl as a joke - I would probably be okay with my teenage son wanting to be a girl for Halloween.
I just curious what the rest of you think. Parents?