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    Talking "To Be Honest..."

    Every time a person tacks the phrase "To be honest" to whatever follows, it irks me. It means that you're probably harboring some inner thought for fear of disclosing too much information. Or maybe it means that you're normally lying, but you're making an exception this time. Either way, it permeates some element of dishonesty. Ironically.

    I mean, if someone is being truly genuine, why would they need to say "To be honest.." in the first place? Wouldn't it be less complicated to just utter what your thoughts are and be done with it?

    I say we abolish this phrase! :steam:

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    I think "to be honest" is building up courage talk- like- a person wants to be confrontational and blunt but they aren't used to it and are scared perhaps so they are saying words to help keep them on track to spit it out and stall for more courage development.

    That is what I have noticed from people saying it to me- they are afraid of the confrontation and say that so that they will be accountable to be confrontational- I see the thought bubble as,
    I already said to be honest- so I might as well be frank and be blunt and honest even though it is very uncomfortable and this person is going to be after me now to say it- build up courage build up courage now just say it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ladypinkington View Post
    I think "to be honest" is building up courage talk- like- a person wants to be confrontational and blunt but they aren't used to it and are scared perhaps so they are saying words to help keep them on track to spit it out and stall for more courage development.

    That is what I have noticed from people saying it to me- they are afraid of the confrontation and say that so that they will be accountable to be confrontational- I see the thought bubble as,
    I already said to be honest- so I might as well be frank and be blunt and honest even though it is very uncomfortable and this person is going to be after me now to say it- build up courage build up courage now just say it.
    To be honest, I agree.

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    To be honest, I use it before saying something potentially offensive or during a situation which might not call for full disclosure of information. To be honest, I am not completely honest 90% of the time. Being dishonest includes withholding information, reframing the question in some way that benefits your purpose, selecting information to suit the occasion. "To be honest" is therefore, a preface to disclosure which might not benefit the disclosee. Am I honest? Oh no I'm not kakakaka What a great topic!

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    Quote Originally Posted by krunchtime View Post
    To be honest, I use it before saying something potentially offensive or during a situation which might not call for full disclosure of information. To be honest, I am not completely honest 90% of the time. Being dishonest includes withholding information, reframing the question in some way that benefits your purpose, selecting information to suit the occasion. "To be honest" is therefore, a preface to disclosure which might not benefit the disclosee. Am I honest? Oh no I'm not kakakaka What a great topic!
    To be honest, I'm not honest.

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    I think people, including me, use this phrase just before they are going to say something they might consider another person will find offensive or annoying just like: "To be honest I don't think that shirt will suit you, but that's just my opinion".

    I actually don't find that phrase annoying most of the times it is used for being civil while speaking the truth.

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    "To be honest" doesn't bother me as much as "JMO," or "just my two cents."
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    Quote Originally Posted by Tallulah View Post
    "To be honest" doesn't bother me as much as "JMO," or "just my two cents."
    That's a funny one. It's like saying your opinion isn't worth anything. Why not JMOBF, just my own Ben Franklin.
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    To be honest I can never really remember using that phrase ever.
    But my sister uses it a lot and she's a f&%king liar.

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    how can we reach conclusions about others when there are so few conclusions we can make about ourselves?

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    listen beyond their words to the meaning around them

    if there is one thing I have found true of others, it is that their world is beyond me. for this I am thankful: even after I have circled the world, there still remain many more to explore.

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