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    I think the worst possible use for that phrase is to point out to some unproven deficiency in the target person.

    Misuse, Case 1: "To be honest, your argumentation is wrong, and I am right." That kind of comment is extremely self-serving and self-promoting, and doesn't give the feeling of "honesty" one bit.

    Misuse, Case 2: "To be honest, 1+1 equals 3." Introducing unproven and/or erroneous claims without proof, expecting them to be accepted outright, because they were expressed in "honesty".
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    To be honest is a lovely phrase to use.
    To be fair
    Honestly
    I'll be blunt
    I'll be frank

    It's one of my trademark phrases.

    It means that you're probably harboring some inner thought or not wanting to disclose too much information.
    Are there FJs that don't do this? >____>'

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    Do you use the phrase as the first thing to every opinion you give, or do you reserve the phrase for giving more of a "revelation", if you know what I mean?

    I'm annoyed by people who begin giving opinions with that phrase. I mean, how would I know? I would have had to see some non-honest opinions first.
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    To be honest, I disagree.

    I'm almost never honest, so it's important when I use it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Santtu View Post
    Do you use the phrase as the first thing to every opinion you give, or do you reserve the phrase for giving more of a "revelation", if you know what I mean?

    I'm annoyed by people who begin giving opinions with that phrase. I mean, how would I know? I would have had to see some non-honest opinions first.
    No idea if this was directed towards me. However I only use this phrase when delivering information that I feel is significant but did not bring up beforehand.

    Depends whether omission of information is viewed as deception. In my mind, there's a certain element of lying involved when pretending you don't know something or turning a blind eye. Don't alot of introverts engage in this behaviour anyway?

    Soo short answer... no I don't use it before every opinion. It is for those revelations.

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    'To be honest' isn't as bad as 'No offense, but....'
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    Quote Originally Posted by Soar337 View Post
    'To be honest' isn't as bad as 'No offense, but....'
    I use that one, too!

    This is probably why I don't get along with FPs.

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    Dude, don't even. I use all three of those phrases. They have their place and value in a conversation.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mystic Tater View Post
    I say we abolish this phrase! :steam:
    To be honest, you are being too literal.

    "To be honest" is really a phrase that let's you say something like:

    "I don't like saying this, and would have kept from saying this under different circumstances, but I feel I must say it out loud now. It is not meant as a personal attack towards you, but only as statement of what is my perception of the truth."

    Atleast that's how I use it, to be honest.
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    I think this, and like phrases, are just used to soften the blow of a potentially offensive statement.

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