I think the worst thing I have ever said to someone I truly cared about, was that I didn't love them when loving them mattered more than anything else.
From the original user of the insult, I did nothing but weep like a wimp, when someone online has said it I have been unable to do anything, but the one instance in real life where someone dared to say that again, I used violence to respond.
What did you do or say after it was said in both instances?
When I said what I said, I broke and cried and tried to take it back, and still spend everyday making sure that this person dear to me knows that I never meant it and that I was in a dark place at the time.
I've never handled it well, not only do I react violently, I also take in what they have said and believe it, and it haunts me, and my self esteem, which is pretty non existant in the first place, takes another battering.How do you handle it when people say mean things to you?
Yes, even if they don't react to it, my guilt overwhelms me, I do not like to hurt others in the way they hurt me, my insults only go so far. I would never take a persons past and use it to inflict pain on them, and yet I know others who happily do so.Do you feel bad and even notice if you say mean things to others?
I think someone was banned here once for using that kind of insult towards another member. I don't think you could go any lower tbh.