*puts head in hands*
Oy! Jivin, I think you take the Good Christian Victim vs. Being a Bastard Protection argument to an extreme; there are safe ways of helping people, even around here. I go out with a motorcycle group sometimes to feed the homeless downtown; now, me alone, I'm 6'5", and I can look intimidating if I don't try very hard, but with bikers who spend most of their lives looking that way...I think I'm good there. People will try to single you out though, and I agree, that's the time to put your foot down, no matter how discourteous it may seem.
Oh yeah, and btw, "pretty" does through me off balance occasionally, but I've gotten pretty good at deflecting that. You guys sounded a little judgemental when I was just being honest. Glad it's not a problem for you.