I agree. I help whomever I can. Complete strangers. Why not? If I've got it to give, what's there to lose?
Things are getting pretty tight for me financially so I'm glad you guys will let me stay with you for awhile. Don't worry, I'll slap on an apron and manage the household affairs. I ain't too proud to beg ya'll.
I create a thread basically stating that it seems like alot of adults are leaning on their parents, and are still only getting by. Then I asked if these dependant adults will be equipped to care for *their* children when they get older. If not, what happens?
We seem to have gone off topic in a not-so-good way. Likely that was my fault.
Originally Posted by Alwar
HOW DARE FAMILY HELP ONE ANOTHER WHAT AN ABOMINATION OF NATURE
That's not even close to the question I was trying to ask.
Originally Posted by Quinlan
Obviously I can't know the examples that you're thinking of so I'm only talking generally. I think we do have to be careful sometimes as outside observors we see only a fraction of the picture and the "give and take" can be over a lifetime and won't neccessarily be in terms of finance. How priceless is attention/company for the young and old?
The refusal to offer money/time assistance to parents comes from my observations in nursing homes, Alzheimer's meetings, and assisted living facilities. Some of the other observations comes from co-workers or friends. So my view is admittedly myopic, which is why I used qualifiers. Also, I know that these behaviors don't necessarily indicate how these adults will treat their children. It only indicates how they treat their parents.
However, combine that with the fact that many people aren't very good with handling money in the long term, and you get the reason I was wondering about what's going to happen in the future. You are right in that I don't have the big picture with even the people that I've observed.
There is a definite attitudinal difference between how women accumulate and spend money and how men accumulate and spend money. For instance, men are encouraged to take more calculated risk with their money in order to increase it, and while everyone is advised to save, more women are risk cautious and adverse when it comes to taking the money they've saved and earned and growing it through investing, stocks, etc. Women also tend to be more likely to buy what they don't need, make more unplanned purchases, and buy things as often as possible ("Hey I like that shirt so much I'm gonna get it in three different colors!").
If I recall, it's just the opposite.
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all I know is my family is like this support children until out of undergrad then the kids are expected to take care of the parents in their old age. of course my parents will help out if needed finacially as long as were at least doing something to better ourselves/lifes and if they can. I mean I don't expect them to buy me a house or a car but I also don't expect them to let me starve either. Most likely after college I can't get a job to pay for shit I'll have to move back in with them even though I don't like this idea its not the end of the world. And btw with mental illness you don't always know just by looking at them so, yeah.
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