Limp, damp handshakes are by far the worst! And I hate limp handshakes from a man. Yes, Kyrielle, you're right - similar to hugs it would be normal to squeeze a little w/o being bonecrushing. That's what's puzzling me here. Usually you also gauge the tightness of hug according to the other person's initiation (or response). I would think that a handshake would be the same, no?