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    Default What do people owe their parents?

    Simple question: As we grow up, what responsibilities do we have towards our parents?

    A more specific question, if you choose to answer it: If your parent(s) expect you to devote their life to them, since they raised you, are you obligated?

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    Nothing.

    Is it a nice gesture to show appreciation for having had good parents? Yes.
    Necessary? No.

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    I'm not logically obligated, but I do feel obligated towards respecting them and trying to, in some ways, "repay" them for what they have spent for raising me.

    I don't believe, though, that in general "people" owe anything to their parents, especially since there are so many bad parents...
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    Quote Originally Posted by 01011010 View Post
    Nothing.

    Is it a nice gesture to show appreciation for having had good parents? Yes.
    Necessary? No.
    I agree.

    If my parents expect me to devote my life to them, they're expectations will not be met. Simple as that.

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    It has nothing to do with their expectations. It depends on what your parents gave you.

    If they gave you a loan, you should repay them. If they were nice to you, you should treat them nicely. And if they ignored you, you should ignore them. If they pissed you off, you should piss them off.

    That's my attitude on the subject.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 01011010 View Post
    Nothing.

    Is it a nice gesture to show appreciation for having had good parents? Yes.
    Necessary? No.
    Why not, though? While it was their choice, they likely sacrificed much.

    Quote Originally Posted by FDG View Post
    I'm not logically obligated, but I do feel obligated towards respecting them and trying to, in some ways, "repay" them for what they have spent for raising me.

    I don't believe, though, that in general "people" owe anything to their parents, especially since there are so many bad parents...
    What about the good parents? Or the well meaning parents that may or may not have done an ideal job?

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    Well there is a world of difference between having good parents and having bad parents. Good parents will often naturally receive a degree of appreciation from their offspring. Do bad parents deserve anything in particular? I don't think so.

    And if they are horrible parents, the only thing you owe them is perhaps a call to Child Protective Services.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Athenian200 View Post
    It has nothing to do with their expectations. It depends on what your parents gave you.

    If they gave you a loan, you should repay them. If they were nice to you, you should treat them nicely. And if they ignored you, you should ignore them. If they pissed you off, you should piss them off.

    That's my attitude on the subject.
    What if they were overprotective, wanting you to be overprotective of them in return? Does this still apply?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Udog View Post
    What if they were overprotective, wanting you to be overprotective of them in return? Does this still apply?
    Yeah, sure. You just find a way to have them placed in a nursing home or mental ward where they'll be watched and can't get out of, because you're protecting them. It's probably overkill, but it guarantees they won't hurt themselves.

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    Parents deserve what they raise. If they raise a being incapable of sympathy, they deserve no sympathy, etc.
    "The present is theirs; the future, for which I have really worked, is mine."
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