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    Default the written word vs. the spoken word

    Many times when I write an email, PM, or letter to someone, I seem to go a bit overboard. I write things that I probably normally wouldn't say in person. It's like I get too wrapped up in the nuances and start freaking out.

    On the other side, I will think of how a real life conversation could have gone differently and am usually happy with what I originally said. It seems like the other person acts like a guideline for what to say next. I will plan out the conversation in my head beforehand but it NEVER turns out that way so I just act accordingly.

    How's it like for other people? Could this be the difference between I's and E's?

    EDIT: My ISFP friend sounds the same in both formats, lucky duck.

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    I always feel like I have better expressed myself in writing than in speech. I get the time to hit the right nuance and use the right words. In speech, it's a hurried process where I have to think on my feet and I might not get it all out the way I want to say it. I'm also prone to "um"s and "uh"s, so I don't sound as certain as I'd like.
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    i way prefer spoken word...i feel like i'm so much better at expressing what i mean.
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    While I am not uncomfortable talking, I prefer the time writing allows me to sort out what I am going to say. So far your hypothesis seems to be holding out.

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    I so prefer speech to writing.

    With emails etc, after sending them i always kick myself as i could of said more, given more detail, asked more specific questions.

    I just go with the flow with speech. It is also easier to interpret what the other is saying, having body language, tone of voice etc to work with.
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    While I prefer writing over speaking, I realize that real life interactions entail a lot of emotional conveyances that are subtle yet constantly sensed by others. This is not possible through writing, no matter how many emoticons you use. However, I am still drawn to constructing concise, meaningful passages that I can toy with until perfect.
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    I'm definitely more comfortable with writing than speaking. It always seems that the best things to say come to mind after the opportunity to say them has passed. With writing, I can compose my thoughts and at least try to be clear with my thoughts.

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    I can actually be extremely talkative but I have open mouth, insert foot syndrome. I like the poetry that's possible with the written word, and the fact that I seem more intelligent on paper than I do out loud. Ha.

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    Whoa, there seems to be a strong pattern. I'll just stick to speaking then unless I wanna sound like a creep in writing. haha

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    I think it's about the same to me. Maybe written has a little edge.
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