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    Default ISTJ/INTJ/INTP/ISTP "first impression" questions

    I think most ISTJ/INTJ/INTP/ISTP's are commonly asked these questions upon first meeting. I know I am. I'd like to hear how you guys have responded to them and what reactions your responses normally produce.


    - Are you angry?
    - What's wrong?
    - Are you always this quiet?
    - Smile! (Okay. Not a question but I'm curious as to what types keep suggesting this questionable deed! ).

    Other types are welcome to add their own "first impression" questions and answers. It would be interesting to see what some of the extroverts hear all the time.
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    When meeting new people I can be talkative, I tend to mimic how people act and try to act as engaged and extroverted as I can though at times it can be uncomfortable and awkward I suppose I do it to avoid all the questions that people would normally ask had I just instantly clammed up.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Willfrey View Post
    When meeting new people I can be talkative, I tend to mimic how people act and try to act as engaged and extroverted as I can though at times it can be uncomfortable and awkward I suppose I do it to avoid all the questions that people would normally ask had I just instantly clammed up.
    Yeah I do this too. So I don't get those upon first meetings.... but nothing's worse than some E type saying all cheerfully (when I'm not in the mood): "Smile!"
    I usually just stare blankly back.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MDP2525 View Post
    - Are you angry?
    - What's wrong?
    - Are you always this quiet?
    - Smile!
    I generally got the three bolded ones above, I don't think I ever came off angry. My initial social strategy was just to smile and laugh nervously when I didn't know what to say. Then I'd try to extract myself when the anxiety got too bad.

    I always hated the "Smile!" thing -- now THAT made me angry when I heard it. Uggh, i just wanted to paste someone in the face.

    I blend pretty well socially now and seem very comfortable in social situations (even when I'm not)... but that's after twenty years of adult socialization and having to spend a lot of close proximity to Feeler and social types and having no choice but to figure out how to make it happen.
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    - Are you angry? No.
    - What's wrong? Absolutely nothing.
    - Are you always this quiet? When I don't have anything to say.
    - Smile! (Okay. Not a question but I'm curious as to what types keep suggesting this questionable deed! ).


    Being an introverted thinker, in the past I have always done too much thinking in social situations, thinking about what I should say, how I should act, etc.

    The truth is that I am not naturally socially adept as some others. When I looked at this fact as something that was a deficiency of my being, or something that made me inferior to others, this was actually the primary source of social anxiety for me.

    Though when I accept that fact as being part of who I am and always have been, and not compare that aspect of myself to others, I am perfectly comfortable being me.

    I've spent too much energy during periods of my life trying to be something I was not because of social expectations. Even if I got better at being something I wasn't through practice, it didn't make me happy, as it always felt phony.

    When we compare our weaknesses to the strengths of others, of course our minds are going to perceive our "self" as being inferior. But if we are internally comfortable simply being who we are, we can overcome these obstructions created by our minds, and be comfortable in social situations, even if we are quiet.

    I am a quiet sensory observer and I have been all my life, in every situation. So I will be that in social situations and be comfortable with it. I feel like this has made me more approachable by others, as if they can perceive this energy of contentment from me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MDP2525 View Post
    I think most ISTJ/INTJ/INTP/ISTP's are commonly asked these questions upon first meeting. I know I am. I'd like to hear how you guys have responded to them and what reactions your responses normally produce.


    - Are you angry?
    - What's wrong?
    - Are you always this quiet?
    - Smile! (Okay. Not a question but I'm curious as to what types keep suggesting this questionable deed! ).

    Other types are welcome to add their own "first impression" questions and answers. It would be interesting to see what some of the extroverts hear all the time.
    even after living with my istp hubby for 20+ years, i still ask him the first two regularly. i wish i could quit, but sometimes he really is angry and something is wrong............though not usually.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MDP2525 View Post
    - Are you angry?
    - What's wrong?
    - Are you always this quiet?
    - Smile!
    I get, "are you sad/depressed?" not, "are you angry?" :/ People typically only ask me these when I'm in a school setting because I absolutely hate being there. It really pisses me off when someone tells me to smile and I'm not in the mood. :steam:

    I usually answer that I'm, "just tired," or that I'm, "more energetic at home." :/

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    Not that I perceived the situation this way in the past when it was occurring to me, but generally, in my experience, people ask these questions because they genuinely care about other people.

    If they did not, why would they even bother?

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    I've definitely gotten all of those, in addition to:
    "You look sick" during a time when I was pretty severely depressed, but apparently I didn't look sad I looked ill. Lol. Awesome.
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    "Why don't you like me?" from people I consider friends

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