It's just that I cringed as much as you did when I saw the comment you addressed. The fact you attributed it to Fi and generalised was just lazy thinking, or else a reaction as part of an ongoing agenda. Neither of which is very useful.
I think you are a lazy reader and you should take another stab at it. Did I say I attributed it to that? I believe I wrote about several options. And I am allowed to form my own opinions based on my own experiences, whether they make you comfortable or not.
I think that way about Fi-judgers, and I haven't been proven wrong. But now that you mention it, Fi-perceivers have a way of making every little thing about a personal agenda. So there you go.
Why do you think I would care in the slightest what you think is useful?
. Why would I care whether you care. I just think ENTPs shouldn't get a name for being smart if they pride themselves on ignorance.
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I know, that is why I have said "I don't fully understand".
However I think that some people are probably too sensitive. By this I mean that they take things too personally. Especially if things are not said with anything bad in mind.
That definitely happens, but it can be worth asking why it is that some people take things too personally. How does that happen? There is always some cause and effect. When communication gets too layered up and indirect, it can also have a negative effect. There are many instances where being direct causes less harm, so communication style is neutral in the abstract, but makes a whole range of impacts depending on the applied context.
If someone's communication is far from the norm, other people need time to develop a baseline for their communication to understand what is intended for harm and what isn't. I can see some people with a certain style of communication for which calling someone's wife ugly would be an opener for a game of insulting. It just smart to have some idea how the other person will interpret the words.
I do think that reason can dictate when it is wise to withhold an opinion. It's fine to have an opinion, but the person who can view the world outside of the context of ego/self can also see that there are times their opinion is not relevant, and simply doesn't matter in the circumstance.
I'm pretty sure the OP is a farce thread, but it has generated some interesting responses.
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You're damn right about people being too sensitive. But I can't think of a situation where calling someone ugly isn't personal, especially since ugly is such a negative word. Actually, she most likely wouldn't have minded to be called pretty. So maybe it's the negative aspect, rather than the judging aspect, which is the problem.
Well, the OP was never the question since he/she went clearly over the line.
Even I see that this is not something you should say unless you are joking when the time is really right for it.