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    Do you think that some types are affected more by loneliness than others? Why and what do you think the most common ways they deal with it are?

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    I think ISFj's are pretty lonely. As far as dealing with it goes, staying busy. There is always something needing to be done.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Eiddy View Post
    I think ISFj's are pretty lonely. As far as dealing with it goes, staying busy. There is always something needing to be done.
    Could you talk more about that, if you want? (I do not want to pry.)

    I can imagine that ISFJs could get lonely too, because of their drive towards duty and task-accomplishing and responsibilities... and shouldering a lot of the load for others without asking for much themselves... but they often don't come across that way because they can get task-focused and sort of avoid showing the sadness/longing for others.
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    Why are they lonely? What makes them prone to it? I can see different reasons for why each type might be lonely, but I want to know what makes them feel that way.

    EDIT: Jennifer beat me to the question!

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    Hmm, I think people would feel lonely overall, regardless of their type. However, F types for example, may not cope as well as T types since most Fs are sociable beings who get energy from interpersonal interactions. Also, Extroverts would also benefit more from human interaction than Introverts...Is would cope better alone than Es would.


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    But you can be lonely even if you are around people too...

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    Sex phone of course.

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    Ah, lonliness in the crowd - I know it too well...
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    that's true fidelia, i think this happens when you lack a deep connection with those around you. sometimes it's enough to have one person who understands you and vice versa to stop you from feeling that way. other times, if you do not find that special someone, you can fill this void with having various friends who can fill different parts of what you need


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    Most definitely, I think it has to due with the fact that we really hate to bother others to get the affection that we need. Martyr types I guess. Always needing to appear strong, capable, and reliable. So we tend to break down mid-life and need to start letting others do for us. It's a catch 22 since everyone has taken the ISFJ for granted and are still wanting things to be done for them.

    I read on wikisocions, that we are the most likely type to be divorced over matter of the house being a mess. Taking care of others certainly gets tiring. So I have to motivate myself into thinking I am doing this for myself and my own peace of mind. I guess that transfers over to relationships, friendships, work, and everything else that gets placed under our demands.

    WHAT?!!! a typical ISFj, always talking about all we have to do, and no one to blame but ourselves. So the loneliness sets in even more since no one really wants to hear about that either.

    I do appreciate the asking though.

    Now how to de-lonelify the lonely.
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