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    Default What is your definition of maturity?

    What characteristics do you believe are essential for a person to possess in order to be mature? Also, describe the traits of the most mature people you've known (along with their type, if possible).
    "Life is like a box of crayons. Most people are the 8-color boxes, but what you're really looking for are the 64-color boxes...I fancy myself to be a 64-color box...I can only meet the 8-color boxes...I mean there are so many different colors of life, of feeling, of articulation...so when I meet someone who's an 8-color type... I'm like, "Hey girl, magenta!" and she's like, "Oh, you mean purple!" and she goes off on her purple thing, and I'm like, "No - I want magenta!" -John Mayer

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    The ability to defer gratification.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tiltyred View Post
    The ability to delay gratification.
    Yes, the ability to delay gratification for the purpose of entering a reciprocal relationship.

    Children are of course loved by their parents, but the parent/chlld relationship is asymetrical.

    One of the ways the relationship is asymetrical is that the child has yet to learn delayed gratification.

    And it will be some time before the child can learn to move from an asymetrical relationship to a reciprocal relationship.

    The asymetrical relationship is the norm on Central where we have the parent figure asking a leading question and the children giving the appropriate answers.

    Instead a reciprocal relationship is turn and turn about - where a reciprocal rhythm is set up between two people.

    Of course MBTI is scam set up to gull children - and you can see how well it works here.

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    The ability to think ahead, see the wisest path, and discipline one's self enough to take it.
    I think I think more than you think I think.

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    Matches one's conversation and behavior appropriately to the environment.

    Recognizes and owns up to mistakes.

    Considers the validity of conflicting opinions and ideas.

    Considers the effects of personal actions and takes into account the welfare of others.
    I-71%, N-80%, F-74%, P-96%

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    1. Tolerance
    2. Compassion
    3. Honesty
    4. Forethought
    5. Charity

    I've mostly got 2 unless I'm really stressed out, and I'm working on developing 1 and 4 right now. I do 5 in a limited way. I wouldn't define myself as a mature person. 3 isn't even on my radar yet. :blushing:

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jewelchild View Post
    Matches one's conversation and behavior appropriately to the environment.

    Recognizes and owns up to mistakes.

    Considers the validity of conflicting opinions and ideas.

    Considers the effects of personal actions and takes into account the welfare of others.
    But absolutely no sense of humour.

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    Balance. Bar none, that's my definition of maturity.

    Many people are compassionate and tolerant, but unable to assert their rights and end up getting trampled upon. On the other hand, many people can stand up for what they personally believe in, but they allow this to dominate their personality and therefore do not consider the implications of their actions on anyone else.

    Our greatest strengths are also our greatest weaknesses if we allow them to consume us.


    it'll be interesting to see how many J's cite "forward planning" as the definition for maturity, how many P's cite "openness," and so on..

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    Quote Originally Posted by Victor View Post
    But absolutely no sense of humour.
    Huh? Lots of mature people I know have great humor. They just know when humor is appropriate and when it's not, which fits into the first category I mentioned.
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    There are some great guidelines here.

    But there is one that I'd like to add. I think that being aware of your own insecurities, and not allowing them to negatively affect the way you deal with others.

    I find jealousy to fit this pattern for a lot of people. They are jealous, because they often (though not always) do not trust themselves in a certain situation, so why would they trust their partner.

    I just wish that I was capable of wording that better...

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