Help! My instincts on what to do may lead me very astray here so I'm going to try to get some feedback here before I do anything.
I keep in contact with 3 employees who used to work at our company. A kind of 'tradition' at our company is to go out for lunch on Fridays as a group. Each of the 3 ex-employee friends keeps telling me to let them know when/where we'll be one week and they'll meet us, so I decided to get them all together with us on the same day.
I found a date that all 3 of them could agree on, and then sent out the notice to the people who do the lunch routine each week so they would know to join us if they wanted for a kind of 'reunion' lunch.
A couple of these ex-employees specifically asked if the upper management people had been told about the lunch, because there are some hard feelings between the ex employees and them... and the ex employees prefer not to have lunch with them. Since they don't do the weekly lunch thing anyway, I didn't think it would be a problem.
Somehow one of the main people that the ex employees don't like found out and assumed it was the office manager who set up this luncheon and told her to make sure she invites X other employee... and seemed as if he were excited to go.
She forwarded the request along to me, and it seems that the boss told X other employee, who I barely knew, about it and she fully expects an invite.
HOW do I go to my boss and tell him:
1 - That he isn't invited or half the group won't attend
2 - That I don't want to invite this other person whom I was barely aquainted with?
Do I just let them all come??? All I wanted was to have lunch with my friends and it has turned into a three ring circus!