In my experience, it's the other TJs hands down. We both have the potential to become the ultimate stubborn go-getters and we'd end up at each other's throats during group projects. The rest (IRL) either give in/up too quickly or simply have more flexibility.
(Yet when negotiating social etiquette, the FJs take the lead.)
"I cannot expect even my own art to provide all of the answers -- only to hope it keeps asking the right questions." -- Grace Hartigan
You are mistaken. ESTPs are dynamic yet open minded, where ENTJs are boorish and stubborn. BOTH are strong willed, no doubt about that.
In my experience, ESTJs can clamp down and refuse to even hear it. ESTPs can go round and round in an argument and say the most ridiculous things to get out of acknowledging a legitimate point against them.
"Charlotte sometimes dreams a wall around herself. But it's always with love - So much love it looks like everything else. Charlotte Sometimes - So far away, glass sealed and pretty." - The Cure