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    12 and a half weeks BerberElla's Avatar
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    I was talking about this last night, about people not noticing when a loved one has done their hair in a new way or something.

    Now as someone who mostly doesn't notice the finer details of pretty much anything, I have never needed someone to prompt me to notice a change in their appearance, I ALWAYS notice a new hair cut, or a new outfit, a change to their look.

    So it's not an N over S thing, as my friend was suggesting it was, but then what is it?

    Now another answer could be (like my ex and this friend said) it's part of a game? which is totally baffling to me since my games are different and never involve someones appearance.

    The game here is generating banter, or simply not wishing to dish out a compliment because you don't want to give an ego person to the person in question. The "treat em mean keep em keen" game.

    What do you think?

    Would you not notice a haircut or new outfit on a loved one?

    If you noticed it would you comment/compliment the person or use it to generate teasing banter?
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    I notice when you change your avatar, does that count? Incidentally, she seems a bit.. needy.

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    12 and a half weeks BerberElla's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by Elaur View Post
    I notice when you change your avatar, does that count? Incidentally, she seems a bit.. needy.

    Oh believe me, she is, very much so. :pornstar:


    I'm not sure if the avatar one can count, maybe it counts when Eck does it, because the bear he uses remains the same but only small details change, whereas the avatar actually changes completely, like a friend turning up having gone from blonde to brown, small chested to large chested and big nose to small nose or something like that all at once.
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    I always notice a change in someone I care about. I often do not notice other things around me.

    For example, the other day, my boyfriend lit candles and put them and some flowers on the table on the deck. I walked right past the table and didn't see either the candles or the flowers. I did, however, notice his new shirt immediately.

    I think it has to do with what we choose to focus on. If I'm not focusing (i.e., walking out onto the deck), I don't see changes. If I am (looking at my boyfriend), then I do. I definitely focus on those I care about....but my surroundings? Not so much.

    Of course, he being ISFJ, absolutely did not get how I could have possibly missed burning candles. Tellingly enough, he said had the situation been reversed, his first response would have been to wonder if someone was watching the candles, because there are some tree branches fairly close.

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    I always notice changes in somebody's appearance. I always comment favourably on the lady's new outfit, hairstyle etc unless it's terrible. I usually notice what guys have done but only sometimes comment.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BerberElla View Post
    Would you not notice a haircut or new outfit on a loved one?
    It depends. I can be very non-detail oriented. Sometimes I might pick it up right away, other times I would notice that something was different and it might take me a minute to place it. The feeling of "unfamiliarity" is my trigger -- I notice that there has been a change... but what exactly?

    If it wasn't inappropriate to the context of the situation, I'd probably mention it as a point of conversation. I also sometimes tell people if they're wearing something that makes them look really good.

    Caveat: If the new hairdo looked like crap, I probably wouldn't mention it unless I was really close to them and knew we could joke about it... I'm not really much of a "social liar," i can't tell people they look good just to make them feel better.
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    you replaced your I with an X?
    In no likes experiment.

    that is all

    i dunno what else to say so

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    Quote Originally Posted by Popsicle View Post
    I always notice a change in someone I care about. I often do not notice other things around me.
    +1

    Quote Originally Posted by BerberElla View Post
    If you noticed it would you comment/compliment the person or use it to generate teasing banter?
    I think it would be a combination of the two. I'd definitely compliment it but then turn it into a little friendly teasing.

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    I would not notice unless they did something drastic to their appearance or way of dressing. I tend to just look at the overall - kempt/unkempt, etc. not details.
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    i don't always notice actually. i could hang out with someone all night and not tell you what they were wearing if you asked me later. i might even remember their hair color wrong. it usually just depends on if something about it jumps out at me...like whoa...that's a cute dress or i loooove that jacket but if it's just normal looking i won't notice what IT is usually.

    in fact just a couple days ago my brother in law shaved his beard and i didn't notice until my sister, his wife said something about it.

    but..i do comment and compliment them on it if i do. i wouldn't pretend not to...that's weird.

    eta: right...like jennifer i would probably not say something if i hated it....and i'll be hoping they don't ask because it's always tricky to word it to not offend them but still tell the truth...i hate that...but i don't wanna lie either.
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