I am of the philosophy, that to a great degree, you will find what you aim to look for. If you are aiming to find deception, paranoia in order to cement your self-preservation....I can't give you a logical reason why, just that the universe has a way of dealing them back to you, and, in such masses as to crumble the very thing you hope to protect, self-preservation.
If I lived near you, I would probably force you to get out with me, and take life, and people, as funny, random, insightful, and often, silly, as they come.
Perception is the key.
I may be biased, but, I'd gone trekking in the foothills of the Himalayas with a group, and, one of our guides (pulling our leg or not) started talking about snakes in and around the area. And, just for shytes and giggles, one time, when the snake stuff was being discussed as our group stood around this area for rest....I froze up, got real quiet, and said to the guy standing in front, "J, whatever you do...just...don't...move!"
And, he did the rest on his own. The freaking out, screaming and crying like a girl, running...
His paranoia helped....he would have kept running, but the mountains dropping off stopped him.
I laughed, he had murder in his eyes. 3 days later, WE all were laughing, including J.
(but, I also laughed when another member of our group, another time, had a REAL encounter with a mountain monkey, who had killed another male in a fight, and was still reeling from his fight, and saw my friend as the 'next target'...I actually filmed that one, yeah, real or not, funny shyte...I even laughed (well, AFTER) when I got chased down the mountains by a herd of cows. Moral: laugh, life is funny, seriously.)
If you're a dude, can we hang out? If you're female, will you marry me?